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Guilt tripped vent

CokezerofreakCokezerofreak member
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The wedding is in 32 days, invitations are out, RSVPs are due by the end of next week and I am now being guilt tripped into inviting my brother's in laws -- the ENTIRE family -- to the wedding.  If I could stand them, I would have invited them in the first place (If I had room on the guest list, which I don't).  I don't want to have people at my wedding that I don't like and only put up with because I have to at family functions with my brother. And one of the people is MY AUNT that is guilt tripping me.  Out of all people she knows 1. limited guest list 2. I can't stand them!!!!

I need some rum to go with my Coke Zero today.  Grrr!
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  • AprilH81AprilH81 member
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    Stand firm!
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  • sarahuflsarahufl member
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    Say no. Seems like you have an easy-ish out- where were all these people when you were budgeting or creating your guest list? We told our familes the guest list is CLOSED.

    I am sorry you have to deal with this. What are they saying/doing?
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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    I'm irritated for you! 
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  • CokezerofreakCokezerofreak member
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    edited February 2014
    They are sending my nephews to my aunt (they go to high school where she's an administrator) asking why their aunts/uncles didn't receive an invitation.  Then my aunt calls (at work!) and says she explained to them that our family comes first, limited guest list blah blah but at the same time telling me that we can still invite them since we have some that declined from the main list.  I said No and told her that of all people (I'm really close to my aunt, she's more of a big sister/second mother since my mom raised her) she should know how hard getting the guest list down was and how my brother's in laws have treated my parents much less the rest of us.  From the moment we were engaged I warned everyone at the beginning that that family wasn't invited.  

    My parents are very kind and would invite anyone and everyone.  They are paying for most of the wedding and I've tried so hard to stay under their budget since I know it's a huge expense.  To have people that have been rude and obnoxious to them at an event they are hosting would be I can't even come up with the word.  My parents wouldn't care and would probably be guilt tripping me now if they knew the nephews went to my aunt, but I do.  The disrespect from them to my parents hurts so much since they are such good people.  No, no, no!  

    Sorry if I sound like a brat.

    Sorry, edited for grammar.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    How ridiculous. Stand firm!
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • HisGirlFriday13HisGirlFriday13 member
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    I am angry for you. Stand firm. (((HUGS)))


    Also....rum!
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    I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'
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  • BelthilBelthil member
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    That's a bratty move... sending your nephews in to do the dirty work! Don't back down! (hugs)
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  • ktjanesmomktjanesmom member
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    Why do people  have to act so ugly?  Its none of her business and she should stay out of it!
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  • RebeccaB88RebeccaB88 member
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    Aunt needs to take her nose out of your business and stick it back in her own. WTF would a couple of high school boys care about going to a wedding anyway?
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  • sarahuflsarahufl member
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    YOU don't sound like a brat, THEY sound like brats!
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  • HaileyDancingbearHaileyDancingbear member
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    Sending your kids to make someone feel bad is such a dick move.  I'd be tempted to be an even bigger dick and teach them a new word: "Mommy and daddy aren't invited because they are assholes.  That means nice person, by the way.  You should say that very often and in public."
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