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What is included in the budget?
OK, it's been almost three years since daughter's wedding, and DH is still occasionally pitching a fit about the cost.
This is what I included in the budget I gave him: dress, veil, church fees, reception venue with food and drink, flowers, invitations and postage, music, photography.
He insists that I should have included the airfare it cost us to fly from CO to Maryland, hotel costs for us, car rental for us, my suit (It was $35 on eBay, for heaven's sake!), food costs while we were in town and gasoline, plus our pet sitting costs for the cat. I say he's full of it. Who's right?
He seems to enjoy telling people that I went way over budget.
This is what I included in the budget I gave him: dress, veil, church fees, reception venue with food and drink, flowers, invitations and postage, music, photography.
He insists that I should have included the airfare it cost us to fly from CO to Maryland, hotel costs for us, car rental for us, my suit (It was $35 on eBay, for heaven's sake!), food costs while we were in town and gasoline, plus our pet sitting costs for the cat. I say he's full of it. Who's right?
He seems to enjoy telling people that I went way over budget.
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Re: What is included in the budget?
You are right about his being fixated. It's tax time. He's a retired electronic engineer who was fairly high up the ladder at the Department of Defense. He is not easy to live with, but I knew that when I married him 37 years ago. He is the most stubborn man alive! Good thing he married a woman with backbone!
Oh, BTW. Daughter married his clone! She worked weekends and summers as soon as she was 16 to help pay for her education, and got a free ride on scholarship the last two years. I'm so proud of her!
Tell him to think of it this way: If you hadn't hosted, you would still have incurred all those costs to attend your daughter's (or anyone else's!) wedding.
The costs of attending a wedding are separate from the costs of hosting.
DH still occasionally complains that I had a few hundred dollars in debt when we were married. That was 37 years ago! He is obsessive, but I knew that when I married him. He sqeazes pennies for blood, even though we have plenty of money. He obsesses over the cost of gasoline when we fill the tank, turns off lights around the house, keeps the temperature low in winter (I've gotten used to it.), always uses coupons for restaurants and senior citizen deals. Then when we have a vacation, we go on luxury cruises. I'll never understand it, but I like having the security of money in the bank and no debts. Odd thing is, his parents were wealthy, and mine were poor. I think it's a engineering thing.
Well, he's not going to change. If anything, men get more rigid as time passes. Lucky for him, he's good in bed. :-)
H&I paid for our rings, license, gifts, our hotel, DYI decor we wanted (card box, escort cards, cake topper, etc), his suit (technically his was free but we paid the "over budget" portion for the guys); my shoes, etc.