The wrong way to gather addresses for your invitations (vent)

blabla89 · February 2014

I can't even. I almost puked all over my macbook when I saw this.

I'm not one to vent on this board but seriously? Please y'all, don't do this.

HisGirlFriday13 · February 2014

Holy. Effing. Shitballs.

That's just....there are no words.

d2va · February 2014

Ewwwwwwwwwwwwww

kmmssg · February 2014

Perhaps you can post updates from time to time on this little saga. If this is only the beginning, there is bound to be some entertainment to come.

thisismynickname2 · February 2014

A) At first I think, perhaps this is a limited list on Facebook or they're genuinely having an open-call for their wedding. (A coworker did this since they were doing a casual backyard thing, and she actually invited everyone who wanted to be invited. Interesting.)

The "and don't assume..." comment makes me realize I have too much faith in people, makes me facepalm and then want to use said palm to bitch-slap her.

sarahufl · February 2014

who is this person? Friend? Family?

They are super rude and I look forward to more updates!

Inkdancer · February 2014

blabla89 · February 2014

She's an acquaintance, which leads me to believe that it's not a limited list, and makes me want to reply just to see what she would say.

RebeccaB88 · February 2014

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bethsmiles · February 2014

That's what a majority of my friends have done. I judge every single one of them for doing it. It's incredibly rude and they are only doing it because they are too lazy to call people.

Fairyjen1 · February 2014

Two days ago an acquaintance of mine did this same thing for her baby shower. The wording was such that I really think she's planning to invite everyone who sends in their address. I don't care for baby showers enough to send her my address. I figure if she really wanted me there she'd bother to message me privately for my address.

APDSS22 · February 2014

Do people not realize what the "private message" function is for? If you're too lazy to copy/paste into individual and private messages, you must not want anyone to come. (Of course, all of the FB messages I sent were personalized in a 'catching up with you and oh-by-the-way-I-need-your-address' situations.)

cowgirl8238 · February 2014

I will admit that I used Facebook to get addresses....but I did it through a PM that was only a follow-up to a phone call with a few of the people who forgot to get back to me the first time. I would never in a million years post this kind of thing on Facebook!

ETA: Verb's are my friend!

AddieCake · February 2014

When former students of mine do this for their weddings and baby showers, I send them my address. First, I publicly ask if they are inviting everyone on FB. When they say no, I comment that I'm sad that I am not invited after being made to feel like I might be thanks to the post.They say they certainly intended to invite me and then they end up messaging me for my address. I have so been enjoying continuing to "teach" them even after they have left my classroom, even if I am bullying my way into these invitations to do it.

princessleia22 · February 2014

TheFutureMrsRohlman22 said:

Do people not realize what the "private message" function is for? If you're too lazy to copy/paste into individual and private messages, you must not want anyone to come. (Of course, all of the FB messages I sent were personalized in a 'catching up with you and oh-by-the-way-I-need-your-address' situations.)

You don't even necessarily need to copy & paste into individual messages, even (although that would be much more polite and personal). If you are really lazy, you could do a private group message to all the people you actually intend to invite. Or, make a private event page on FB (I've seen this done... it counted as their STD), invite wedding guests onto that event page, and put a request on there.

But sending the address request to everyone, then clarifying that sending address doesn't mean you are invited, is just HORRIBLE! Absolutely horrible!

Sugargirl1019 · February 2014

Horrifying!!!

grumbledore · February 2014

See siggy... >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

HaileyDancingbear · February 2014

Not that I am condoning using faceboook statuses to gather addresses, but do none of these idiots realize you can change the privacy settings for specific posts so only certain friends see them? You can make a list of every friend you want to see it and you can even block specific people from seeing it- for instance if anything I post has a curse in it or is inappropriate at all I block my grandparents from seeing it, and when I post anything studio ghibli related I just make a list of the few people on my friends list who are also fans, because otherwise it's annoying to explain who totoro is and how anime and cartoons are different.

Why are people so damn tactless and incapable of using methods of communication properly? Seriously, what is going on in this person's head that "Don't expect an invite just because you emailed" doesn't sound rude and obnoxious?

sofakingmad · February 2014

I also feel like this is in the same realm of asking people to address their own thank you envelopes at showers.

It can be time consuming, but getting addresses isn't that hard.

Amyzen83 · February 2014

Is it a potluck wedding by any chance?

cupcait927 · February 2014

What the actual fuck?!

climbingsingle · February 2014

That is some crazy shit right there. What is wrong with some people?

Aray82 · February 2014

Yikes. Come to think of it, why doesn't this person just post a list to her wall of every fb friend who's invited? It would be just like in high school when the roles in the musical were cast, or team rosters were set...only ruder. And with more hurt feelings.

pumpkinsandturkeys · February 2014

There are no words. How is this acceptable???

Angry Pumpkin.

2leadsingers · February 2014

My stepsister did the same thing last week for her baby shower/3rd wedding coming up. I had posted about etiquette on inviting her to my wedding...... because for what I want..... I would rather not. I did use FB for addresses but it wasn't written like that. I recently moved and during unpacking found an entire box of envelopes from the last decade from various shower/birthday/wedding invitations etc on them and had no idea which ones were current. I posted that I needed to update my address book and get rid of the box of empty torn envelopes and could people PM me their correct addresses.

McCMal · February 2014

Is it at least on a event page for the wedding? Couldn't she just make a private event, invite those who she wished to invite and ask for the addresses on that?

pinkshorts27 · February 2014

2leadsingers said:

My stepsister did the same thing last week for her baby shower/3rd wedding coming up. I had posted about etiquette on inviting her to my wedding...... because for what I want..... I would rather not. I did use FB for addresses but it wasn't written like that. I recently moved and during unpacking found an entire box of envelopes from the last decade from various shower/birthday/wedding invitations etc on them and had no idea which ones were current. I posted that I needed to update my address book and get rid of the box of empty torn envelopes and could people PM me their correct addresses.

I still hate it when people do that. Maybe I'm just being grumpy, but I hate it when people post things like "Lost my phone, need everyone's phone number again!" If you want mine, ask for it specifically, don't post a generic thing that I have no clue if it applies to me or not.

jessieallie86 · March 2014

What the.....? Just....no. That is so rude. I would probably unfriend any of my FB friends if they did that.

MrandMrsMongoose · March 2014

One of my friends did this. She added, "Send us your address only if you have been a positive part in our relationship." *Extreme side eye*

Amyzen83 · March 2014

MrandMrsMongoose said:

One of my friends did this. She added, "Send us your address only if you have been a positive part in our relationship." *Extreme side eye*

Wow! My snarky side would respond, but what if you were a negative part in my life?

2leadsingers · March 2014

I usually post when I change my number only because otherwise I get a ton of messages saying "Why didn't you answer my text message/voicemail/demand that you pick up my shift etc" but 85% of the phone numbers I have in my phone are memorized so I don't need to ask for those again.

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