Both my fiance and I are practicing Catholics (he was baptized received 1st communion and reconciliation but doesn't remember being confirmed he's quite a bit older than I am so it was a long time ago) and have never been married but we have 4 year old twins together. I've been actively practicing Catholic (with a few short periods of drifting away from mass) for my entire adult life but we have children that we actually planned. We love each other and we made a colossal timing mistake but I would never call our children or desire for them a mistake. We also obviously live together and there is no way I or he is moving out of our family home prior to marriage separate bedrooms may be possible but I'm a stay at home mom and won't go back to work just to live away from my family for formality. Has anyone heard of a situation like this and how was it handled?