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My bridesmaids won't pay $245 for a spa day :( woe is me

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another entitled bride who is upset that her friends don't want to drop major cash on her spa day bachelorette.


 I will say I'm impressed with the responses by WB. I know if this was on WW they'd all be sympathizing with the bride. 
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Re: My bridesmaids won't pay $245 for a spa day :( woe is me

  • LDay2014LDay2014 member
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    I was explaining to FI yesterday that there are three levels of forums...In descending order of proper etiquette and inversely 'Princesses'
    • TK
    • WB
    • WW
    I have recently forayed into WW and am MORTIFIED by it all...every other post is 'it's my day!!!' and whining about etiquette queens.

    I wish I could videotaepe their weddings for future reference when I'm bored...

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  • kmmssgkmmssg mod
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    That was truly mortifying.  I really couldn't help myself once I got over there.
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  • HaileyDancingbearHaileyDancingbear member
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    Ughhhhh.  I don't understand this mentality these people have where everyone is expected to shell out money for them- How entitled are they that they feel they can reach into other peoples' wallets and tell them what to spend their money on?  Seriously, do they have no concept whatsoever about how hard some people work to earn that money?

    I just wanna give all of my bridesmaids a huge hug now.
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  • NavyBlue143NavyBlue143 member
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    That one chicky towards the end was insane. Why do people not understand that disagreeing with someone and explaining why =/= rude? Everyone was very, very nice. This is what's wrong with the "me" generation. They are taught that they can do anything, deserve everything, and to ignore anyone who disagrees with them because they are the best of the best and can do no wrong! And all conflict has been removed from their lives so they never learn that they can be wrong.
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  • NavyBlue143NavyBlue143 member
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    I could have phrased that better. I myself am only 25. Yes spoiled brats have always existed and will always exist, but it seems to me that there are more of them in my generation. And it drives me nuts.
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  • thisismynickname2thisismynickname2 member
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    It's one thing to be bummed that your bride slaves don't share your vision of a fun bachelorette; it's another thing to whine... and whine about it. What is she, 3? Gross.
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  • faeriedust101faeriedust101 member
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    alphabridesmaid said:
    another entitled bride who is upset that her friends don't want to drop major cash on her spa day bachelorette.


     I will say I'm impressed with the responses by WB. I know if this was on WW they'd all be sympathizing with the bride. 
    Not true. WW had a similar question recently and the majority of people told op that she was way off base and shouldn't be making demands about her party and what people should pay.

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  • hellohkbhellohkb mod
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    Ugh. Though I have a feeling the weddingbee thread was a troll. Something about the way she typed didn't seem.. Authentic, I guess. She seemed like she was trying to get a rise out of people.

    Also, because I know people here will actually be honest, is planning your bachelorette party a no-no? I always assumed someone else planned it.


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  • InkdancerInkdancer member
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    Planning your own bachelorette is indeed an etiquette problem. You are supposed to be the guest of honor, so planning it yourself comes off as "look at me look at me I am the specialest".
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  • JennyColadaJennyColada member
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    Inkdancer said:

    Planning your own bachelorette is indeed an etiquette problem. You are supposed to be the guest of honor, so planning it yourself comes off as "look at me look at me I am the specialest".

    But I AM the specialist!
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  • JennyColadaJennyColada member
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    Also, at least one good thing came from that topic: I now want to do cosmos with Cosmos by the pool with my girlfriends. Can't wait for summer!
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  • MrsMack10612MrsMack10612 member
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    I would love to know where this is for that spa day.

    I can get my hair cut/colored, shellac manicure, pedicure (their middle tier version) and a 1/2 hour massage for $217 at my salon/spa.  It would be $256 plus the tips.

    The level of entitlement is amazing.  I would never expect my friends to spend that kind of money on one day for me.  I felt badly enough about the money they did spend.

     

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  • photokittyphotokitty mod
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    What is "sockpuppeting" and why does one get moderated for it?
    I loved that they put a box around  the OP's post so I could just scroll down tot he next whiney insanity posted ;-p
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  • tcnobletcnoble member
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    I didn't get past this line before I was appalled "I bought their flights down to help them out a little and told tem just to pay me back when they can, but preferably before the wedding"

    HAHA you are SO kind to "help them out" but to then request they pay you back. Ummm no. You're not helping anybody.

    And I agree with what other PPs have said. I'm 25 and the sense of entitlement certainly does not reach all of us younger brides. It's a special spoiled brat spell that many are under. Whenever I read posts like that I just can't help but thinking "so what are her PARENTS like?" because I know if I walked around all "THIS IS MYYYYY DAY BOW DOWN TO ME" about my wedding, my dad would yank the carpet out from underneath me and there would be NO wedding. So while I think at some point we are adults and responsible for our own actions, you know there is somebody fostering that mindset. Unfortunately.
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  • cupcait927cupcait927 member
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    edited March 2014

    All I can do is SMH. My bff and another good friend have already started planning my bachelorette party. I have no idea what we're doing and all I can think is "I hope it's nothing too expensive, I wouldn't want anyone to feel put out or have anyone spend too much money on little ol' me". I love my friends dearly and saving them the expense of my wedding is big reason why I chose no bridal party and really don't care if I have a shower or a bachelorette party at all. I just want my friends to be there with me on the day that I get married and celebrate. I really don't get this sense of entitlement that comes along with being a bride (for some anyway). All these girls seem to want is a fairytale story of their wedding and have it be as cookie cutter as all of the ones you see in magazines. Real life doesn't work that way.

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