I had a nice preview of what it will be like when our invites go out. So my mom called me a little while ago to tell me that she and my dad were invited to my cousins wedding, and she wanted to know if I wanted to go, or if FI and I would be going. I told her that I was pretty sure I wasn't invited. So my mom said "Yea, but we were. So you can come." Oh for the love of.... I explained to my mom that unless my name was explicitly on the invitation I was not, in fact invited. Plus, my name should not have even been on their invitation, I should have received my own, and I was 98% sure I did not get one being that my cousin texted me to ask for their address and did not ask for mine. So my mom said that my cousin probably thinks I still live at home with them. Again. I told her that I was pretty sure my cousin knew I no longer lived at home being that it has been over 5 years since I lived at home, and even if she thought such a thing, I still should have received my own invitation addressed to my FI and I. My mom then said, "Well the invitation was addressed to [Dad's name] and family. In the Latino culture, that means the whole household is invited." No.... just no.
I then spent the next few minutes telling my mom how invitations should be sent and worded. I told her that if my cousin did intend for me to be there I should have received my own invitation, and that I would not be attending unless I received an invitation. Mind you, the wedding is at the end of the month. I went to her younger sister's wedding like 5 or 6 years ago, and I remember it had a cash bar which ended up running out early. Fun! My mom said she thinks it is at the same place, so I am not exactly upset that I was not invited.
This is exactly what I am worried about with our wedding, that our families may have this same mentality. My mom was just going to write in our names on the RSVP. Sigh. Oh the fun....