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Wedding Woes

Starting over from square one (and dealing with vendors long-distance)

I think I jinxed myself.  I was enjoying just how pleasantly simple every step of wedding planning was going, and then it all kind of started falling apart. 

I had a date and a venue set up.  It was going to be a totally laid back, "blossom" theme wedding in the early spring (2015) in a nice park here in town. 

But my dad is sick -- pretty serious, chronic kind of sick -- and I recently learned that he can't travel, so we have to hold the wedding in his city (about 4 hours away).  Also, to put it delicately, "sooner is better than later" if I want him to be healthy enough to attend (much less walk me down the aisle).  So suddenly I'm thrust into figuring out a new venue, a new theme (since the old one was directly tied to the season) and a new date, as soon as possible.  Freaking out. 

Holding it in Albuquerque is a mixed bag.  On the one hand, it's a bigger city so there's more stuff to choose from.  On the other hand, I have to go up there to taste cake, scout out venues, find a makeup/hairstylist, pick a caterer, etc. etc. etc.  If I could've stayed down here, I knew all of those vendors already, so it was just so much simpler.  Dealing with my dad's kind of inevitable decline and mortality is hard enough without all of these other super stressful details piling on too.

Re: Starting over from square one (and dealing with vendors long-distance)

  • I'm so sorry that you have to go through that stuff with your dad :( However, as a "long-distance bride," my planning hasn't been too bad. We're holding the wedding in FI's hometown, so his mom has been great as far as scouting out stuff for us. Is there a family member or a close family friend who might be willing to scout for you? And I wouldn't completely scrap your theme--you definitely should be able to use elements from it in your new wedding venue. 
  • I am very sorry for everything you are going through with your dad. 

    I have been planning my wedding, taking place in Colorado, from Texas and the best thing I have found when it comes to finding vendors from long distance is Thumbtack.com. Just type in what you need, your budget and they will contact you with their price and services.

    Also, if you do have family out there if you find anything online, see if they can go to the venue to look at it or call potential venues or meet with potential vendors. I have had to rely on my dad and his family in Colorado to help because of the distance.
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  • 6fsn6fsn member
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    I'm sorry you are going through this. 

    For wedding stuff: Hit up a local board and ask for recommendations. Can your parents prescout locations so you don't have to visit as many?  While cake tastings and all are nice, they aren't a necessity.  I never tasted anything.

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