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Reception, interfaith, help!

loggiechikloggiechik member
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Hey guys D:
I'm mildly freaking out!
My FH and his family and I are a different religion from my family. It's a destination wedding (sort of, I live out here in San Diego and family is from TX and UT) My FH and I are having a closed ceremony- there will only be the immediate family and two close friends there. I want to have a reception afterward, but there won't be many people there first off. I wanted something super small and intimate but mom thinks that there will be hard feelings with the family, since they're expecting something different than what I'm offering.
Sorry if I'm not explaining it very well, I just don't know what to do anymore!
Should I scrap a formal reception and just have a barbecue reception instead? That would be ideal for me and FH, but would the family be pissed, do you think? Help!!
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Re: Reception, interfaith, help!

  • emmyg65emmyg65 member
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    If you're paying for the wedding yourselves, you can do whatever you want (within the bounds of good hosting, obvs). So if you and your FH want a barbecue reception, go for it! If people don't like it, they can either decline the invitation or suck it up.
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  • QueerFemmeQueerFemme member
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    loggiechik said:

    Hey guys D:
    I'm mildly freaking out!
    My FH and his family and I are a different religion from my family. It's a destination wedding (sort of, I live out here in San Diego and family is from TX and UT) My FH and I are having a closed ceremony- there will only be the immediate family and two close friends there. I want to have a reception afterward, but there won't be many people there first off. I wanted something super small and intimate but mom thinks that there will be hard feelings with the family, since they're expecting something different than what I'm offering.
    Sorry if I'm not explaining it very well, I just don't know what to do anymore!
    Should I scrap a formal reception and just have a barbecue reception instead? That would be ideal for me and FH, but would the family be pissed, do you think? Help!!

    Chances are, if the family doesn't actually get to see the ceremony, they are going to be pissed anyway. Have the bbq celebration.

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  • CMGragainCMGragain member
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    You didn't say what the two different religions are.  Don't serve pork barbecue if there are Jewish or Muslim guests. 
    It is not your responsibility to fulfill family expectations.  It is your responsibility to treat your guests well at your reception, which can be as large or as simple as you wish.  It is very rude of a wedding guest to complain about the type of food served or the amount of money spent.  Don't worry about what some people think you should have.  As long as you follow good etiquette, you are fine.
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