Wording advice

Re: Wording advice

• AddieCake member

  

  March 2014

  You could always go with, "Together with their families..." but your parents may not like it if they are pushing for traditional wording.

  What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14

  

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• CMGragain member

  

  March 2014 edited March 2014

  Is this a church wedding?  "Honor of your presence" is reserved for weddings that take place in a house of worship.
  You have several choices.  Have you talked to your FFILs?  How do they feel about being on the invitation?
  
  Traditional wording:  (Your parents hosting)
  
  Mr. and Mrs.John Bridesparents
  request the honour of your presence
  at the marriage of their daughter
  Bride's first middle
  to
  Mr. Groom's Full Name
  Day, date
  time o'clock
  Church name in full
  Address
  City, State
  
  Traditional wording that lists both sets of parents as hosts:
  
  Mr. and Mrs. John Bridesparents
  Mr. and Mrs. George Groomsparents
  request the honour of your presence
  at the marriage of
  Bride's Full Name
  and
  Groom's Full Name
  (etc.)
  
  Non-traditional wording:
  
  Mr. and Mrs. John Bridesparents
  request the honour of your presence
  at the marriage of their daughter
  Bride's First Middle
  to
  Groom's Full Name
  son of Mr. and Mrs. George Groomsparents
  (etc.)
  
  Together with their families
  Bride's Full Name
  and
  Groom's Full Name
  request the honour of your presence
  as they are united in marriage
  (etc.)
  
  It is not an honor to be listed on a wedding invitation.  The invitation is a simple note from the hosts to the guests, telling them who, what, when and where.  It doesn't include or exclude anybody.  .  Contributing money towards your wedding does not automatically make someone a host of your wedding.  That being said, you have to please your families, especially if they are paying for the majority of your wedding.  Good luck!
  

  

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• huskypuppy14 member

  

  March 2014

  I think both set of parents should be on the invitation, because it sounds like they're both hosting. I guess I never understand why one set of parents would insist being the only ones on it when they're not the only ones hosting. It doesn't matter that back in the day the brides parents paid and hosted, generally that's not the case anymore.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• huskypuppy14 member

  

  March 2014

  Also, if your FI parents are paying for the invites they should get a say in the wording.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• Jen4948 member

  

  March 2014

  laurynm84 said:

  I think both set of parents should be on the invitation, because it sounds like they're both hosting. I guess I never understand why one set of parents would insist being the only ones on it when they're not the only ones hosting. It doesn't matter that back in the day the brides parents paid and hosted, generally that's not the case anymore.

  Paying does not equal "hosting," so whether or not both parents should be listed depends on who is acting as the point persons-issuing the invitations, receiving the replies, greeting the guests, and seeing that their needs are attended to.  One can pay without acting as a point person, and as @CMGragain says above, being listed is not an "honor."  The purpose of the invitation is to convey logistical information about the wedding, not to map out the family tree or to "honor" anyone other than the guests.
  

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• efgrand member

  

  March 2014

  Thank you all so much for your replies- you have made me feel a whole lot better! I really appreciate it!

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