My godmother messaged me over the weekend, and I started feeling pretty shitty about not having her on the guest list. Despite the fact that we don't talk often, I do love her, and I do want her there, but she's married to the most insufferable, bigoted, racist, sexist, homophobic, douchecanoe of a man.
He can believe whatever he wants, but he's loud about his "disapproval", he can't talk about anything other than how the gays/blacks/whatevers are ruining the world, and he's incapable of putting his personal prejudices aside for a single day - he couldn't even do it for his own daughter's wedding, so I'm fairly certain he wouldn't for mine.
It's not nice, but I just can't bring myself to invite him, knowing how he would behave. Especially when so many of the important people in our lives (off the top of my head: my bro, my aunts, one of my best friends, FI's best friend, FI's cousin) are gay. So I can't invite her because I can't invite him. And I know that the fact that I'm not inviting her is going to be a big deal for the family, but I am just out of energy on this. If I did invite her and not him, that would also be a big deal. If I invited them both, it would be a big deal. I cannot win, so if I'm going to cause drama, I'd rather cause it by doing what's best for my sanity and the majority of our guests.
And I'm going to go cry in the corner now because I hate that my family is so full of stupid people. I'm so tired of these damned if I do, damned if I don't situations around our wedding. This is exactly why I wanted to elope.
Anyone else getting the guest list rages?