Am I Being A PITA? (WR)

buddysmom80 · March 2014

I have a WR question for everyone.

Last week, I received our contract for our venue. It's a standard contract, but due to the fact that our wedding is off-season, our rates our lower for certain things that are in the contract. FI and I went over the contract line by line and emailed her back with the changes we would like before we signed off.

She emailed me back with the same contract with the only change being that instead of a head table, we were having a sweetheart table.

I have an email drafted going over the points that we would like changed in the contract before signing off, but I don't want to seem like a pain in the ass. I'm always thinking worse-case scenario and if something happened, the contract is in black and white to cover both us and the venue.

These were the things I asked to be changed:

1) change the verbage of having ALL ceremonies outdoors to having the ceremony in the North Room (our wedding is in December in New England)

2) change the ceremony fee from the on-season price to the off-season price

3) putting an addendum to the contract stating we can rent black overlays from the venue at X cost per table

Let me know what you guys think. If I'm being a pain, I'll just cut my losses and sign the contract, but I just want to make sure we're both in agreement.

blabla89 · March 2014

IDTS. You need to cover yourself. Just make sure the tone of your email is polite and not pushy. All good.

Swazzle · March 2014

I would want it all written into the contract before I signed it. Since your email response back to her with the things you wanted amended didn't do any good, I would call her and explain that you would prefer to have the contract updated with the changes before you sign it and send it back over.

buddysmom80 · March 2014

I just sent out an email again with the addendums. If I get the same contract again, I'm calling her. Thankfully the contract is only four pages though!!!

GoldenPenguin · March 2014

All of the things you want changed are crucial. You're not being a PITA. Stick to your guns, especially where money is involved.

[Deleted User] · March 2014

I'm with the other PPs. get it in writing before you sign it!

suzie211 · March 2014

Not a PITA. Contracts are written for a reason. Don't sign it until she meets all your demands.

buddysmom80 · March 2014

I'm so glad I'm not being a pain! I remember when I bought my house, the back and forth with contracts and I thought that was the norm because it was a lot of money going from one set of hands to another. It taught me to go over everything with a fine-tooth comb and I just was worried that the venue would think I was being a bridezilla. I just didn't want to come back and bite me in the ass.

Thanks ladies!!!!

Blue & White · March 2014

agreed. I don't think you're being a PITA for those things. If you wanted to say put in an addendum that each slice of cake would be served with a caramel drizzle (or something obscure), I would think you were being a PITA.

Our contract is pretty solid, but our event order is where things can be changed (i.e. our food selections, server options, etc.) But I would DEFINITELY want the on-season rate changed to off-season. Can't believe you're having trouble with that, frankly.

Dignity100 · March 2014

I don't think you're being a pain either - if she still doesn't do it, I would 'red line' <with each red line, initial and date it> and just INITIAL the contract and send it back to them asking for them to sign off before you officially sign off (if that makes sense).

[Deleted User] · March 2014

Those are all important things that need to be clarified in the contract! You're not being a PITA at all.

buddysmom80 · March 2014

Now I want a cake with some caramel drizzle...

If I don't hear back from her by tomorrow afternoon, I'll give her a call. I'd like this contract signed, sealed and delivered before I go on vacation.

phira · March 2014

I agree with everyone else. You're asking for something entirely reasonable, which is, "We would like to sign the contract that has everything we agreed on in writing because, as it reads now, this is not what we want."