In another thread recently, I made the comment about, 'You wouldn't ask someone to rearrange their dinner plans because of you, so why would you ask someone to rearrange their wedding plans for you?'
Clearly, neither of my premises is accurate.
A friend of mine (the director of religious ed at my parish, whom I've mentioned before as being not terribly swift) and I had made tentative plans for dinner this week, some night after work. (DH doesn't especially care for her, so I try to do things with her without him).
I told her last week that only Monday and Tuesday worked for me -- Wednesday I have a work function, Thursday I have Stations of the Cross at church, and Friday DH and I go to the Lenten fish fry at a neighbouring parish.
She texts me today and says, 'Dinner?' I said, 'I can do tonight only.' She says, 'That won't work.'
So then we go back and forth and she asks why I can't do it Wednesday (work), Thursday (church), or Friday (DH plans). Then she wants to do something Friday because her maybe-boyfriend is in town. I said we could meet for drinks after. She asked, 'Well, I know you and [DH] were planning to go to the fish fry, but can't you come to dinner with us instead?' and then named a really expensive GF restaurant she likes.
It's Friday, we already can't eat meat, I'm not terribly interested in have GF, lactose-free, vegan food on top of that because that's how she chooses to eat.
I reiterated that drinks would work (figuring DH could invite his friend who recently moved back to the area so he'd have someone to talk to).
She finally said, 'Well, I guess that will have to work. I don't understand -- you're married to him, so you see him all the time, why can't you give up one date night to do something with friends?'
It's 2 p.m. and I need a drink.
I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'