"Love Story" Videos

Re: "Love Story" Videos

• AddieCake member

  

  March 2014

  I am only a fan of these if they are just playing on a loop in the background somewhere. Please do not hold your guests hostage with a video by forcing them to sit and watch it.

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• jessiray member

  

  March 2014

  I'm with @AddieL73. I would be so mad if I was forced to watch a video at a wedding. I would definitely put it on your wedding website or something.

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• BlueBirdMB member

  

  March 2014

  I hate videos or slideshows.  

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• mysticl member

  

  March 2014

  A friend of mine did a slide show at her church prior to the ceremony.  It was on a loop and played on a screen that was over the alter.  The audio was just music.  When I say before the ceremony I mean before the ceremony, while people were being seated.  The ceremony was schedule to start at 2:00pm and the bride was at the alter by 2:05pm so it wasn't like they delayed the ceremony to have people watch it.  

  
  

  I've also seen the video/slideshow on a loop in the lobby area when people are entering the venue.  That way they have the option of hanging out and watching for a few minutes if they want to, otherwise they just head on in.  

  

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• Jen4948 member

  

  March 2014

  Don't force your guests to sit through the video.  They are there for the ceremony, but after that they want to be able to mingle, eat, and dance.  Don't treat them like a captive audience.
  

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• climbingsingle member

  

  March 2014

  AddieL73 said:

  I am only a fan of these if they are just playing on a loop in the background somewhere. Please do not hold your guests hostage with a video by forcing them to sit and watch it.

  Yes, this. 

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• wabanzi member

  

  March 2014

  I'm probably the odd one out, but as a guest I like the short (no longer than 5 minutes) photo slideshows that come right at the end of the dinner.  It fills that awkward gap of just sitting there while some people are still finishing up eating.  Besides, at this point, I'm done with the small talk at the table and enjoy a few minutes of conversation break.

  
  

  If the video is longer than 5 minutes, I start to get edgy. It only happened once though, the video was about 15 minutes long and everyone seemed to start to fidget. The short ones seemed to be enjoyed…as in no negative comments and people laughed a lot.  

  
  

  That stated, we have no plans to show a video/photo slideshow at our wedding, which has not gone over well with my future in-laws who really want one.  It's just one thing I didn't want to put in effort.

   

   

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• oliviaester1991 member

  

  March 2014 edited March 2014

  I personally like these videos, as long as they are only about 5 minutes, I don't know why everyone is so against them. I mean if you stop the wedding like in the middle of party time and dancing to show it that would be stupid but I can understand showing it during or towards the end of dinner. As a guest I have enjoyed every wedding that has shown them, even when I didn't know the people very well (fiance's friend who I only met a few times), and when I did know the person well (my sister) I LOVED it.
  
  I'm not having one, but not because I didn't want to, it was just really expensive to rent the equpiment from my venue, and I honestly don't have the time to put something like that together.
  

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• Jen4948 member

  

  March 2014

  
  

  oliviaester1991 said:

  I personally like these videos, as long as they are only about 5 minutes, I don't know why everyone is so against them. I mean if you stop the wedding like in the middle of party time and dancing to show it that would be stupid but I can understand showing it during or towards the end of dinner. As a guest I have enjoyed every wedding that has shown them, even when I didn't know the people very well (fiance's friend who I only met a few times), and when I did know the person well (my sister) I LOVED it.
  
  I'm not having one, but not because I didn't want to, it was just really expensive to rent the equpiment from my venue, and I honestly don't have the time to put something like that together.
  

  When they turn out the lights, turn up the sound, and prevent the guests from talking to each other, dancing, or whatever else they would do, these videos become annoying.
  
  Also, many people just aren't interested in the "how we met/love story" of the couple.  The important thing to many guests is that the couple got engaged and are now married-not all the things that happened along the way in their relationship.  Showing a video of the history of the relationship comes off as AWish.
  

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• theartistformerlyknownas member

  

  March 2014

  If you want it for your own keepsake, awesome. MAYBE to show at the rehearsal dinner. When people have had slideshows playing on a loop somewhere at the reception I've never stopped to watch them.

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• oliviaester1991 member

  

  March 2014

  
  

  oliviaester1991 said:

  I personally like these videos, as long as they are only about 5 minutes, I don't know why everyone is so against them. I mean if you stop the wedding like in the middle of party time and dancing to show it that would be stupid but I can understand showing it during or towards the end of dinner. As a guest I have enjoyed every wedding that has shown them, even when I didn't know the people very well (fiance's friend who I only met a few times), and when I did know the person well (my sister) I LOVED it.
  
  I'm not having one, but not because I didn't want to, it was just really expensive to rent the equpiment from my venue, and I honestly don't have the time to put something like that together.
  

  When they turn out the lights, turn up the sound, and prevent the guests from talking to each other, dancing, or whatever else they would do, these videos become annoying.
  
  Also, many people just aren't interested in the "how we met/love story" of the couple.  The important thing to many guests is that the couple got engaged and are now married-not all the things that happened along the way in their relationship.  Showing a video of the history of the relationship comes off as AWish.
  

  *stuck in the box* I respectfully disagree that guests aren't interested in the "how we met/love story" of the couple. I know you aren't supposed to be like "ITS OUR DAY" but in the end the relationship is really what you are there celebrating. I've been to many weddings over the last few years and have never heard a complaint about a guest not being interested in the couple's story, and if I did I would think it was a little rude of the guest.

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• Jen4948 member

  

  March 2014 edited March 2014

  oliviaester1991 said:

  
  

  oliviaester1991 said:

  I personally like these videos, as long as they are only about 5 minutes, I don't know why everyone is so against them. I mean if you stop the wedding like in the middle of party time and dancing to show it that would be stupid but I can understand showing it during or towards the end of dinner. As a guest I have enjoyed every wedding that has shown them, even when I didn't know the people very well (fiance's friend who I only met a few times), and when I did know the person well (my sister) I LOVED it.
  
  I'm not having one, but not because I didn't want to, it was just really expensive to rent the equpiment from my venue, and I honestly don't have the time to put something like that together.
  

  When they turn out the lights, turn up the sound, and prevent the guests from talking to each other, dancing, or whatever else they would do, these videos become annoying.
  
  Also, many people just aren't interested in the "how we met/love story" of the couple.  The important thing to many guests is that the couple got engaged and are now married-not all the things that happened along the way in their relationship.  Showing a video of the history of the relationship comes off as AWish.
  

  *stuck in the box* I respectfully disagree that guests aren't interested in the "how we met/love story" of the couple. I know you aren't supposed to be like "ITS OUR DAY" but in the end the relationship is really what you are there celebrating. I've been to many weddings over the last few years and have never heard a complaint about a guest not being interested in the couple's story, and if I did I would think it was a little rude of the guest.

  The fact that one person likes something and has never heard a guest complain about it is not a good reason for doing it, nor does it negate the etiquette that holds that it is not appropriate.  You may never have heard anyone say anything bad about it, because yes, that would be rude and hurtful to the persons doing it. 
  
  But etiquette holds that treating wedding guests as captive audiences for "love story/how we met" videos is rude and AWish, and while nobody may say anything out loud out of respect for your feelings, you can bet they'll be thinking it and thinking less of you for doing it. 
  

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• wabanzi member

  

  March 2014

  Jen4948 said:

  oliviaester1991 said:

  
  

  oliviaester1991 said:

  I personally like these videos, as long as they are only about 5 minutes, I don't know why everyone is so against them. I mean if you stop the wedding like in the middle of party time and dancing to show it that would be stupid but I can understand showing it during or towards the end of dinner. As a guest I have enjoyed every wedding that has shown them, even when I didn't know the people very well (fiance's friend who I only met a few times), and when I did know the person well (my sister) I LOVED it.
  
  I'm not having one, but not because I didn't want to, it was just really expensive to rent the equpiment from my venue, and I honestly don't have the time to put something like that together.
  

  When they turn out the lights, turn up the sound, and prevent the guests from talking to each other, dancing, or whatever else they would do, these videos become annoying.
  
  Also, many people just aren't interested in the "how we met/love story" of the couple.  The important thing to many guests is that the couple got engaged and are now married-not all the things that happened along the way in their relationship.  Showing a video of the history of the relationship comes off as AWish.
  

  *stuck in the box* I respectfully disagree that guests aren't interested in the "how we met/love story" of the couple. I know you aren't supposed to be like "ITS OUR DAY" but in the end the relationship is really what you are there celebrating. I've been to many weddings over the last few years and have never heard a complaint about a guest not being interested in the couple's story, and if I did I would think it was a little rude of the guest.

  The fact that one person likes something and has never heard a guest complain about it is not a good reason for doing it, nor does it negate the etiquette that holds that it is not appropriate.  You may never have heard anyone say anything bad about it, because yes, that would be rude and hurtful to the persons doing it. 
  
  But etiquette holds that treating wedding guests as captive audiences for "love story/how we met" videos is rude and AWish, and while nobody may say anything out loud out of respect for your feelings, you can bet they'll be thinking it and thinking less of you for doing it. 
  

  I'll refer to my comments above and add that I've only heard how much guests love it.  They laugh at the awkward photos and the small talk around the table afterwards (and throughout the reception) is how great the "little" video was.  It's a short video that comes at the end of dinner.  If it entertains the guests and is kept short (very short--5 minutes tops), I love to see them.  About half of the weddings I've been to have them.  Most do an excellent job (save the one I mentioned earlier).  At several weddings, guests (mostly family) have asked for a copy and/or talked about the video for months/years afterwards (e.g., "I just loved that slideshow"). 

  
  

  Relatedly, our soon to be guests keep asking me about our photo video will be showing.  I keep telling them we are not having one, and they keep trying to talk me into it. So my experience is very different from yours.  But that is just my experience.  I would appreciate your etiquette source since I have not really come across this issue in my own reading.  Admittedly, personal experience cannot be generalized.

   

   

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• Jen4948 member

  

  March 2014

  wabanzi said:

  Jen4948 said:

  oliviaester1991 said:

  
  

  oliviaester1991 said:

  I personally like these videos, as long as they are only about 5 minutes, I don't know why everyone is so against them. I mean if you stop the wedding like in the middle of party time and dancing to show it that would be stupid but I can understand showing it during or towards the end of dinner. As a guest I have enjoyed every wedding that has shown them, even when I didn't know the people very well (fiance's friend who I only met a few times), and when I did know the person well (my sister) I LOVED it.
  
  I'm not having one, but not because I didn't want to, it was just really expensive to rent the equpiment from my venue, and I honestly don't have the time to put something like that together.
  

  When they turn out the lights, turn up the sound, and prevent the guests from talking to each other, dancing, or whatever else they would do, these videos become annoying.
  
  Also, many people just aren't interested in the "how we met/love story" of the couple.  The important thing to many guests is that the couple got engaged and are now married-not all the things that happened along the way in their relationship.  Showing a video of the history of the relationship comes off as AWish.
  

  *stuck in the box* I respectfully disagree that guests aren't interested in the "how we met/love story" of the couple. I know you aren't supposed to be like "ITS OUR DAY" but in the end the relationship is really what you are there celebrating. I've been to many weddings over the last few years and have never heard a complaint about a guest not being interested in the couple's story, and if I did I would think it was a little rude of the guest.

  The fact that one person likes something and has never heard a guest complain about it is not a good reason for doing it, nor does it negate the etiquette that holds that it is not appropriate.  You may never have heard anyone say anything bad about it, because yes, that would be rude and hurtful to the persons doing it. 
  
  But etiquette holds that treating wedding guests as captive audiences for "love story/how we met" videos is rude and AWish, and while nobody may say anything out loud out of respect for your feelings, you can bet they'll be thinking it and thinking less of you for doing it. 
  

  I'll refer to my comments above and add that I've only heard how much guests love it.  They laugh at the awkward photos and the small talk around the table afterwards (and throughout the reception) is how great the "little" video was.  It's a short video that comes at the end of dinner.  If it entertains the guests and is kept short (very short--5 minutes tops), I love to see them.  About half of the weddings I've been to have them.  Most do an excellent job (save the one I mentioned earlier).  At several weddings, guests (mostly family) have asked for a copy and/or talked about the video for months/years afterwards (e.g., "I just loved that slideshow"). 

  
  

  Relatedly, our soon to be guests keep asking me about our photo video will be showing.  I keep telling them we are not having one, and they keep trying to talk me into it. So my experience is very different from yours.  But that is just my experience.  I would appreciate your etiquette source since I have not really come across this issue in my own reading.  Admittedly, personal experience cannot be generalized.

  Sorry, my etiquette source comes from right here in this forum.  You and oliviaester are the only two people I know of who would like to see a "love story" video of the couple's relationship at a wedding reception.  I stand by my comments above and strongly advise not doing it.
  

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• wabanzi member

  

  March 2014

  Thanks for the reply Jen4948 as I was curious. But I enjoy them only if they are how I stated above. I've actually never seen them done any other way.

   

   

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• AddieCake member

  

  March 2014

  All the people we invited to our wedding were close enough to already know how we met. If they weren't, we wouldn't have invited them.

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