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Do you invite the ex?

Brittany110814Brittany110814 member
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Okay so I know this sounds crazy... but I'm curious what some think. My fiance and his ex girlfriend have a child together..I have two children by my ex husband... my ex and I are not able to co-parent due to his ....inability to do so, but my fiance and his ex are still friends. So much so, that I too- speak to her regularly. She lives with her boyfriend (whom she plans to marry as well). We have all of the kids parties together... All 3 children even have sleep overs at her place... etc.

We all get along very well.

so, invite or don't invite to the wedding? Call me crazy, but who else would I ask? :) is it offensive to invite her?
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  • HisGirlFriday13HisGirlFriday13 member
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    What does your FI think?

    If you can co-parent with her and she's in your lives and you get along well, then go for it.

    I wouldn't invite your ex-Dh, though.
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    I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'
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  • thejucheideathejucheidea member
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    Yes, we invited exes. One of my husband's exes was in the wedding party and another was invited but couldn't attend because she lives out of state now, and one of mine was supposed to be in the wedding party but was unable to make it from out of state as well due to his work schedule.

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  • mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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    This is a much better thread than the other one about inviting exes.  Ha. 

    I'd let your FI take the lead on this one.  Let him know that if he wants to invite her, it's OK by you and then he can do what he wants with that.  
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  • shaylagirlshaylagirl member
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    If you're both on board with it; why wouldn't you? 

    If he wants her there, and you want her there, then she should be invited as a guest. 


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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    I don't see any reason not to invite her if he wants her there.
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  • Amyzen83Amyzen83 member
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    This seems like a situation where this woman seems like more than just an ex, she sounds like a really good friend to both of you. So if you are both cool with her than I'd go ahead and invite her and her bf like you would any other friend. Plus it sounds like it would benefit the kids as well having her there. Your ex however I wouldn't invite since it sounds like he's not really a part of your lives.
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  • PirateBarbiePirateBarbie member
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    it sounds like you all have a good arrangement/relationship - if your FI wants to invite her and her boyfriend, I don't see why you shouldn't. 


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  • crys-cryscrys-crys member
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    We invited 3 of my hubby's exes. He has no children with any of them. They are just friends and we saw no reason to not invite them. If you like the ex, then it would not be offensive to invite her.
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