Non-Alcoholic Wedding

Re: Non-Alcoholic Wedding

• huskypuppy14 member

  

  March 2014

  Do not say anything about a dress code, and don't mention alcohol. Alcohol is not needed, and you are under no obligation to provide it. Have security and if people bring in their own have them escorted out. 

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• CMGragain member

  

  March 2014

  No.  Alcohol is not a requirement at a wedding.  If any of your guests complain, then they are behaving rudely.  To "warn" people about your alcohol free wedding is to imply that there is something wrong about it.  There isn't.  Enjoy your wedding day!
  

  

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• phira member

  

  March 2014

  I actually wouldn't warn anyone. If you do, it's more likely people will 1) harass you about it and complain and moan and groan, as if alcohol is necessary for a wedding to be enjoyable, and/or 2) pregame and/or sneak in booze.

  

  now with ~* INCREASED SASSINESS *~
  
  

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• wrigleyville member

  

  March 2014

  I agree with @phira. If you tell them, they'll be apt to bring in flasks. Just have a dry wedding and don't say anything. If anyone complains, they're the rude one, not you.

  
  

  I would pass on the dress code, by the way. Your guests will know what to wear based on the style of your invitations, the venue/location, the weather, etc. Telling adults how to dress, even if your intention is friendly, comes off as sort of micro-management-ish.

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• CMGragain member

  

  March 2014

  Oops!  I missed that bit about advising  guests what they should wear, AKA dress code!  No!  Don't do it!  Terribly rude!
  

  

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• cowgirl8238 member

  

  March 2014

  I agree just skip that entire enclousre (Dress Code and Alcohol) as it will only provoke the opposite behavior. 

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• tesgirl123 member

  

  March 2014

  There is no need to tell your guests what to wear.   Do not do an insert card.   There is also no need to have alcohol at your wedding.   People that bring alcohol themselves are rude and inappropriate.   I am sorry your extended family won't respect your wishes and will bring in drinks themselves.  

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• lyndausvi mod

  

  March 2014

  phira said:

  I actually wouldn't warn anyone. If you do, it's more likely people will 1) harass you about it and complain and moan and groan, as if alcohol is necessary for a wedding to be enjoyable, and/or 2) pregame and/or sneak in booze.

   

  YEP.   And my husband would be one of the number 2 people.  Although he would be pre-gammer not the sneak in booze.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  

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• STARMOON44 member

  

  March 2014

  Rude and pointless. You just told us yourself: you have decided to invite rude people who always bring alcohol. Assume at your wedding they will be rude and bring alcohol and plan from there: have a venue that has enough staff that there will be people who can alert anyone breaking out a flask that it isn't permitted.
  
  And it's not a "non-alcoholic" wedding, it's a "dry" wedding. Lots of weddings are full of alcohol and have no alcoholics.

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• Inkdancer member

  

  March 2014

  Everyone who has heard that I'm having a dry wedding has said "well, guess I'll bring my flask". Don't advertise or you'll make it worse.
  

  

  

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• mysticl member

  

  March 2014

  Krispycream107 said:

  As a consensus, my parents, groom, his parents, and I would like to have no alcohol at our wedding. We are not personally against drinking in general, but both our families have seen negative effects of alcoholism in our lives, and so as a personal decision we just don't want our special day to feature any alcohol. So I'm wondering if I need to make this known to my guests and if so, how? I am planning on having an enclosure with my invitations that describes dress code for the day (very laid-back feel), and so I want to include just a short sentence on the same enclosure that "We request that this be an alcohol-free event." Some people I've asked for advice on this say that there is no need to mention it an enclosure, some think it would be tacky. HOWEVER, (I must stress this), I come from a family where no matter the event, they WILL BRING their own drinks, even if it is assumed that drinks are provided. I promise to you this is true! So knowing that, do you think that mentioning it in an enclosure is ok?
  

  Then telling them there is no alcohol will not stop them and will probably just encourage them.  

  
  

  Like others have said leave out the dress code information too.  The only way that would be appropriate is if your venue had a dress code and would bar your guests from attending if they did not comply with it or you were having a black or white tie event.  

  

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  March 2014

  I don't know how you properly address that since it's know within your families that people will BYOB even if they know booze will be provided. Maybe if you don't advertise that there will be no booze then people won't preparty as one poster suggested to help eliminate people showing up drunk at the start, And if Cousin Johnny doesn't know there won't be alcohol, he will only bring a six pack instead of case. Then if they don't have much with them, that will cut back on the alcohol problems. I think that might be the easiest way to deal with this issue. Good luck!!!

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• delujm0 member

  

  March 2014

  Have you considered having an afternoon wedding?  There are a lot of benefits - people don't feel like they want to get trashed in the middle of the afternoon, and therefore don't typically miss the bar, and also venues are typically cheaper for daytime affairs than nighttime.  Just throwing an option out there.  If we were going booze-free, i definitley would have done a brunch or lunch wedding.  Probably brunch because brunch is my favorite.

   

  That having been said, don't mention the dress code or lack of bar to anyone beforehand for any reason.  If you start warning people about lack of booze, they're more likely to pregame/bring a flask.  If they don't know that it's coming, they'll either just deal with it like normal adults, or carry on like children and leave.  There is nothing wrong with having a dry wedding - so you have nothing to apologize to anyone for.

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