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invite due times help

hyechica81hyechica81 member
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so i got my invites today in the mail they came out amazing except my wedding is june 28th of this year my shower is april 26th and my response cards say may 18th that they are due by, the venue we are using wants a final count by june 14th. my family is telling me the date is to soon they cant get mailed out before your shower.

they want me to have them reprinted my brother who got married had his due a month before his wedding?

whos right i really dont want to spend the extra $ to have them reprinted i want to make sure i have enough time to get the responses in
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    That really is pretty early. 
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • kmmssgkmmssg mod
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    Is there a compelling reason you have your RSVP's coming a month early?

    Is your family saying your wedding invitations can't be mailed prior to your shower?  If so, that is incorrect.  If anything, people would expect to see a wedding invitation prior to a shower invitation.

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  • vmj23vmj23 member
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    that does sound pretty early if you don't need a count until June 14th, although I've never heard that you can't send them out before the shower.  some people don't even have showers.  my shower is early April and my wedding end of May and I just went my invites out earlier this week. 
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    If I got a shower invitation first, I would kind of be wondering about the wedding invitation and wanting to be sure I would be getting one before committing to the shower.  Not everyone follows etiquette and invites shower invitees to the wedding. I'd be pissed if I got the shower invitation, went, and then did not receive a wedding invitation. So no, I don't think shower invitations should go out before wedding invitations. 
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    That RSVP date seems pretty early. The RSVP should have been a week prior to when you needed the final numbers for your venue so to give you a bit of wiggle room to follow up with people who didn't respond. A month out is a bit much.

    As for the bridal shower. I had my shower at the end of April and didn't get married until July. Needless to say my wedding invites weren't even close to going out. April was the only time that my sister (MOH) was going to be in town so that is when they planned it for. Not everyone has a shower after wedding invites go out because the timing of showers is really dependent on those planning it. So to me when your wedding invites go out should have no bearing on your shower invites and vice versa.

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  • hyechica81hyechica81 member
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    ok so i called the company the american wedding and they were really nice i went ahead and changed the date to june1st to so the invites can go out in may and not have such a short time to respond so the june date gives them more time, it was just the response cards and they could not refund me beacuse it was a custom order but they were nice and gave me 50% off the response cards
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  • huskypuppy14huskypuppy14 member
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    AddieL73 said:
    If I got a shower invitation first, I would kind of be wondering about the wedding invitation and wanting to be sure I would be getting one before committing to the shower.  Not everyone follows etiquette and invites shower invitees to the wedding. I'd be pissed if I got the shower invitation, went, and then did not receive a wedding invitation. So no, I don't think shower invitations should go out before wedding invitations. 
    But the bride shouldn't be planning her shower, so it's not really her choice when the shower invitations go out. I agree with Maggie, my shower is end of April and my wedding is June 14. We are not sending out our wedding invites until beginning of April (and even then, its 9-10 weeks before the wedding). My sister has already sent out the invitations to my shower.
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  • hyechica81hyechica81 member
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    everyone that got a shower invite got a save the date my sister and mom did not send out any invites to people who did not get a save the date.
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  • MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot member
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    Wedding invitations should be mailed 6-8 weeks before the wedding.  It has nothing to do with shower invitations.  You should be mailing out your invitations in early-mid May.  

    Your RSVP date is too early, regardless.  The RSVP date should be no more than 2-4 weeks ahead of the wedding.  Since you don't need a final count until June 14, your RSVP date should be somewhere around June 7.  

    May 18 is way too early for RSVP.  Reprint the cards.  
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