Can't Figure this out. How to set up a bridal party

Mgraz001 · March 2014

Hey all!!

So wedding is not till next year, but the engagement party is a few months from now and I really want to get this bridal party set up. The main issue is we started out with 6 girls, 6 guys, but did not include my brothers. I instantly felt guilty about this and I decided that I need to include them.

The problem. My 6 bridesmaids are the only 6 women in my life. If my Fiancé were to include my brothers on his side I would be two short. My idea is to have my fiancé add his cousin and another fried and I add my brothers to my side.

Do you think if it is going to be mixed gender he should have two women on his side? Would it be fine to just have my brothers on my side?

MairePoppy · March 2014

You should forget about making the sides even. Just ask the people who are closest to you. It's fine to add you brothers to your side.

MobKaz · March 2014

I agree with MairePoppy. Sides do not have to be even at all. Sides do not have to be balanced in terms of gender, either.

Although we do not differentiate roles in our weddings, your two brothers could be ushers versus groomsmen.

The bottom line is that you should make these choices based on relationships rather than numbers or symmetry.

bridetobe6615 · March 2014

I agree. Uneven is fine! I've seen a girl escorted by 2 groomsmen on several occasions and it is cute. Or, you may find other ways to include your brothers during the ceremony too. Good luck.

AddieCake · March 2014

Don't worry about having even sides or having mixed genders on both sides.

Simply Fated · March 2014

Mgraz001 said:

Hey all!!

So wedding is not till next year, but the engagement party is a few months from now and I really want to get this bridal party set up. The main issue is we started out with 6 girls, 6 guys, but did not include my brothers. I instantly felt guilty about this and I decided that I need to include them.

The problem. My 6 bridesmaids are the only 6 women in my life. If my Fiancé were to include my brothers on his side I would be two short. My idea is to have my fiancé add his cousin and another fried and I add my brothers to my side.

Do you think if it is going to be mixed gender he should have two women on his side? Would it be fine to just have my brothers on my side?

Don't worry about the sides being even. And mixed gender sides is totally fine.

Do you want to have your brothers involved or is it just out of guilt? If it's just out of guilt, then you should probably skip asking them. I mean, your original gut instinct wasn't to ask them and that's pretty telling.
If you truly want them involved in the wedding party, then I suggest adding them to your side and leaving his side the way it is.

cowgirl8238 · March 2014

Sides don't have to be even so if you really want to add them then go ahead. Another option is giving them each a reading to do during the ceremony or just honoring them with a nice boutineer and having them excort any single ladies in your families. (i.e. widowed grandma or your mom etc.)

Jen4948 · March 2014

You can have uneven sides and persons of the opposite sex on each side. There is no requirement that sides have to be even or that only females can stand with the bride and only males can stand with the groom.

Choose the people you really care about and want standing with you. Don't choose someone by way of reciprocation or out of a sense that you "have to" to please them or someone else.