Help!
My fiancee has a friend from high school who he's stayed close with over the years. His mom and stepdad are not fond of this friend due to some partying that took place at her house when he was in high school. High school was 8 years ago for him....and people change!
I've come to know this friend over the last couple years and she's great! She has now become OUR friend. Yeah, when my fiancee was in high school, she was older, and he would party at her house. But since that time she's been married, had a child, and has completely changed! She's as loyal of a friend as you could ask for.
Shortly after we got engaged my fiancee got a phone call from his mom...his stepfather apparently had voiced his opinion on this friend being invited to OUR wedding that WE are paying for! Apparently, he is threatening to not attend our wedding if this friend is there. My fiancee's mom understands that this is OUR day and thinks we should be able to invite whoever we want. She is willing to let the past remain in the past for one day, and has had no luck convincing his stepfather to do the same. This friend lives in Tennessee (the wedding is in Wisconsin), and we don't even know if she would be able to make the trip for the wedding, but we think we should be able to extend the invitation to her.
It's been a couple months since this conversation first happened, and we haven't heard an update from his mom on the subject. How do we re-address this issue, making our wishes to invite her clear without creating tension?!?!
Has anyone else come across this or a similar issue? And how was it resolved?
P.S. I have not taken this friend off our guest list. Maybe I'm being selfish? I'm open to any and all thoughts on this issue!