do I have to transport everyone??

kitsunegari89 · March 2014

My reception is less than 4 blocks from the church. Do I really need to pay for a bus to move people who will probably walk anyway? We have already arranged for transportation for the elderly and those with disabilities. This would be for the young and able-bodied.

AprilH81 · March 2014

Transportation is not a requirement for any of your guests, but if you are going to provide it for some (except if it was only the bridal party) you should probably provide it as an option for everyone.

antoto · March 2014

You may want to just check into it and see if you can. I love wearing heels to weddings because I am not expected to walk very far at all. To walk 4ish blocks in heels is a little sad for me...

kitsunegari89 · March 2014

AprilH81 said:

Transportation is not a requirement for any of your guests, but if you are going to provide it for some (except if it was only the bridal party) you should probably provide it as an option for everyone.

My dad is driving our couple of old people and my friend who is on crutches (long story). In his own car. We don't have anything fancy for them that anyone would be jealous of. It's just so much extra money for the bus ($500) and it's only 3.2 blocks.

On-street parking in the area is plentiful as well.

AprilH81 · March 2014

mrshutzler said:

AprilH81 said:

Transportation is not a requirement for any of your guests, but if you are going to provide it for some (except if it was only the bridal party) you should probably provide it as an option for everyone.

My dad is driving our couple of old people and my friend who is on crutches (long story). In his own car. We don't have anything fancy for them that anyone would be jealous of. It's just so much extra money for the bus ($500) and it's only 3.2 blocks.

***Stuck in Box***

If it is a casual arrangement of having family give rides to those who need it I think you are off the hook as far as providing transportation for everyone. They can park and walk, move a car, grab a taxi or whatever they want to do. I was envisioning a bus waiting for the "special guests" and then having to turn "regular guests" away.

kitsunegari89 · March 2014

AprilH81 said:

mrshutzler said:

AprilH81 said:

Transportation is not a requirement for any of your guests, but if you are going to provide it for some (except if it was only the bridal party) you should probably provide it as an option for everyone.

My dad is driving our couple of old people and my friend who is on crutches (long story). In his own car. We don't have anything fancy for them that anyone would be jealous of. It's just so much extra money for the bus ($500) and it's only 3.2 blocks.

***Stuck in Box***

If it is a casual arrangement of having family give rides to those who need it I think you are off the hook as far as providing transportation for everyone. They can park and walk, move a car, grab a taxi or whatever they want to do. I was envisioning a bus waiting for the "special guests" and then having to turn "regular guests" away.

It's a very casual arrangement. Dad's just driving people in my mom's Subaru Outback. I know that most if not all of my friends will be stoked to walk. It's GORGEOUS in New Orleans in April, and the walk is right down St. Charles Avenue to Audubon Park! Everything will be in bloom!

antoto · March 2014

I'm sure you will be just fine. I went a little overboard with transportation with my wedding and several of my shuttles ended up being empty because some people just prefer driving themselves!

Especially if guests bother to look at the locations, the ladies will know too wear sensible shoes

aloha5736 · March 2014

I am in and same boat and provided transportation. I would not like to walk in heels.

peachy0722 · March 2014

antoto said:

I'm sure you will be just fine. I went a little overboard with transportation with my wedding and several of my shuttles ended up being empty because some people just prefer driving themselves!

Especially if guests bother to look at the locations, the ladies will know too wear sensible shoes

It's true -- since the locations are so close together, you may not have many people utilizing the shuttle and it will feel like a waste. I think for that short of a distance, many people would prefer to walk or take their own cars.

aloha5736 · March 2014

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aloha5736 · March 2014

Assuming there is plenty of street parking, I think you should be fine. Difference with my venue and the church, I don't have enough guaranteed parking since it is public parking. I have no clue how many spots there are and no way of knowing. I wouldn't want to walk in the heat, in heels, and mine is about 5 blocks. I'm sure some may choose to walk and that is fine. If you have tons of parking, I think you should be good. I paid $1300 for transportation (2 buses)

AroundTheBlock · March 2014

No, it is not your responsibility to provide transportation. It is courteous of you to provide it for the elderly and those with disabilities, but that does not create an obligation for you to provide for the able-bodied. Four blocks may be a bit much for those who choose to wear delicate high-heels, but that's a choice, and if they're really smart they'll have a pair of those little fold-up ballet-flats in their evening bag in case the dancing goes on late into the night -- and they can choose to drive themselves the four blocks, too -- entirely up to them.

PrettyGirlLost · March 2014

Michelle5736 said:

I am in and same boat and provided transportation. I would not like to walk in heels.

That's when you change into flats for the walk. I never go anywhere in heels without emergency, backup flats.

kitsunegari89 · March 2014

PrettyGirlLost said:

Michelle5736 said:

I am in and same boat and provided transportation. I would not like to walk in heels.

That's when you change into flats for the walk. I never go anywhere in heels without emergency, backup flats.

So, basically I should trust my female guests to be sensible enough to either wear or at least bring flats? I just don't want to have any guilt. I hate guilt.

peachy0722 · March 2014

mrshutzler said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

Michelle5736 said:

I am in and same boat and provided transportation. I would not like to walk in heels.

That's when you change into flats for the walk. I never go anywhere in heels without emergency, backup flats.

So, basically I should trust my female guests to be sensible enough to either wear or at least bring flats? I just don't want to have any guilt. I hate guilt.

In my experience it seems most people don't provide transportation. It's not required, and I don't think it's anything to feel guilty about. Sure, it's a nice courteous option to provide, but I don't think people expect it (at least not in my social circles).

If you let people know the distance between the two locations, people can plan accordingly.

Inkdancer · March 2014

mrshutzler said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

Michelle5736 said:

I am in and same boat and provided transportation. I would not like to walk in heels.

That's when you change into flats for the walk. I never go anywhere in heels without emergency, backup flats.

So, basically I should trust my female guests to be sensible enough to either wear or at least bring flats? I just don't want to have any guilt. I hate guilt.

What PP said. As long as people know there's no shuttle and it's 4 blocks apart, they'll either wear sensible shoes or plan alternative transportation.

happymellow · March 2014

Meh. Four blocks isn't far. I can do that in horribly uncomfortable shoes that chew the heck out of my feet. Also, since the transportation is casual, I agree with pps. You don't have to provide transportation for those that can walk it.

PrettyGirlLost · March 2014

mrshutzler said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

Michelle5736 said:

I am in and same boat and provided transportation. I would not like to walk in heels.

That's when you change into flats for the walk. I never go anywhere in heels without emergency, backup flats.

So, basically I should trust my female guests to be sensible enough to either wear or at least bring flats? I just don't want to have any guilt. I hate guilt.

You can't have guilt unless you allow yourself to feel guilty. and you have nothing to feel guilty about if you don't provide transportation! Don't worry!!

I would not expect a couple to pay a few grand to hire shuttles to transport guests 4 blocks, and I sure wouldn't do it for my own wedding.

Anyone with half a brain cell will Google Map the location of your ceremony and reception venue, see that they are within 5 blocks of each other, and either make arrangements to drive themselves, carpool with others, or hoof it the day of your wedding.

If women choose to wear shoes that they can't walk a few blocks in, then that stupidity is on them. As I said, I always have backup flats with me in case I break a heel- that happened to a friend once when we were out, or my feet get tired, etc.

kitsunegari89 · March 2014

PrettyGirlLost said:

mrshutzler said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

Michelle5736 said:

I am in and same boat and provided transportation. I would not like to walk in heels.

That's when you change into flats for the walk. I never go anywhere in heels without emergency, backup flats.

So, basically I should trust my female guests to be sensible enough to either wear or at least bring flats? I just don't want to have any guilt. I hate guilt.

You can't have guilt unless you allow yourself to feel guilty. and you have nothing to feel guilty about if you don't provide transportation! Don't worry!!

I would not expect a couple to pay a few grand to hire shuttles to transport guests 4 blocks, and I sure wouldn't do it for my own wedding.

Anyone with half a brain cell will Google Map the location of your ceremony and reception venue, see that they are within 5 blocks of each other, and either make arrangements to drive themselves, carpool with others, or hoof it the day of your wedding.

If women choose to wear shoes that they can't walk a few blocks in, then that stupidity is on them. As I said, I always have backup flats with me in case I break a heel- that happened to a friend once when we were out, or my feet get tired, etc.

I also put interactive google maps and addresses of both locations on my wedding website. Everyone should have a good idea by now that the two locations are very close together. All my male cousins are already talking about having a "parade" to the reception, so they're happy about walking.

Jen4948 · March 2014

It's a nice gesture to provide transportation for those who need it, but it isn't required for those who don't. That said, I'd make very clear what the distance is between your venues so those guests who do have to walk it are prepared for it.

short+sassy · March 2014

Fellow New Orleanian here! I agree transportation for all the guests is not necessary. Especially since we are not talking about those god-awful, uneven sidewalks and streets in the Quarter.

But I mainly posted to send out props for having your wedding/reception in one of the most beautiful areas of the city during one of the most beautiful times of year!

kitsunegari89 · March 2014

short+sassy said:

Fellow New Orleanian here! I agree transportation for all the guests is not necessary. Especially since we are not talking about those god-awful, uneven sidewalks and streets in the Quarter.

But I mainly posted to send out props for having your wedding/reception in one of the most beautiful areas of the city during one of the most beautiful times of year!

I AM SO EXCITED! If you see a giant white cupcake running around on April 5, it's probably me. I don't know how I got talked into such a poofy dress, but at least it probably won't be too hot! I didn't bother with flowers for the church, and am instead cutting some large elephant ear leaves from my mom's yard and putting them in the urns. It'll look cool.

aloha5736 · March 2014

LOL after reading this maybe I should rethink the $1300 worth of transportation I hired. What if it rains??? I assumed people wouldn't want to walk and it would be an excuse for people not to attend. No one I know coming, that I can think of, is incapable of walking a few blocks (5-7 min walk). In essence of rain, I understand there are umbrellas, but no way would I walk in the rain all dressed up, even under an umbrella. I hate wet feet! Good thing your church has parking, mine doesn't have enough

Mitch617 · March 2014

Where in Audubon is the reception? Do they have to walk far once they get there? You're probably fine without transportation.

kitsunegari89 · March 2014

Mitch617 said:

Where in Audubon is the reception? Do they have to walk far once they get there? You're probably fine without transportation.

The reception is at the Round Table Club. Technically not Audubon Park, but it's that big pretty house with the stained glass windows on the left side of the park if your back is to Loyola. Everyone is bringing their own car and parking near the church, so I imagine if it rains, they will do the same and hopefully remember their umbrellas. Either that or drive from the church to the reception, which shouldn't be a huge deal.

edandy · March 2014

l think you are totally fine. I don't think if you provide transportation for a few people, you have to do it for all because the few people you are providing transportation are old people and disabled people. People who are able to walk 4 blocks should not be upset that you only provided those guests with transportation. That's the laziest bullshit and it reminds me of the people who use scooters in walmart when they legit don't need them and are just too lazy to walk. Or the people who illegally park in handicapped spots because it's close.

I think you are only expected to provide transportation if it's across a big city, or if everyone flew in OR if it's a super long drive between venues.

PrettyGirlLost · March 2014

Michelle5736 said:
LOL after reading this maybe I should rethink the $1300 worth of transportation I hired. What if it rains??? I assumed people wouldn't want to walk and it would be an excuse for people not to attend. No one I know coming, that I can think of, is incapable of walking a few blocks (5-7 min walk). In essence of rain, I understand there are umbrellas, but no way would I walk in the rain all dressed up, even under an umbrella. I hate wet feet! Good thing your church has parking, mine doesn't have enough

If it rains and ppl don't want to walk in the rain then they drive themselves to the reception. They had to drive themselves to the ceremony, right?

I would cancel the shuttles and save that $1300.

grumbledore · March 2014

I wouldn't mind walking 4 blocks, even in heels. If you have a website I would mention the distance so people can decide for themselves. I would not expect transportation. But I would never expect transportation from a ceremony to a reception.

grumbledore · March 2014

Are people unable to drive 4 blocks if they don't want to walk? I really don't get the transportation thing personally.

kitsunegari89 · March 2014

I feel zero guilt. My guests can hoof it or drive themselves. It's 4 blocks.

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