I chose one of my good friends to be a bridesmaid today. I showed her my colors before I asked her if she would be one. She absolutely loved my colors. She agreed. I set out the parameters for the dress: Any style (I do not want matching style), no satin finish, a certain color and a certain color shoe (they pick the shoe style). She rolled her eyes when I stated that I did not want shiny shoes.
Let me back up. Last year, when she had her wedding, I was invited to be a bridesmaid. I declined due to the fact that the dresses that she chose were expensive and absolutely horrid style and color (she did not let anyone pick what they wanted style wise). There was no way that anyone could use those dresses again. I did not tell her this.
I said "Great!" and continued to tell her that I'm using a particular bridal store. She stated that she used that bridal store last year when she got married and didn't like the selection of bridesmaids dresses. She said that she would find an outside store that matched the color I chose. I asked her to please use the store that I'd chosen, due to any color variations an outside store may have and that if she could not find one that matched, a dress from my store may be on backorder and may not get here in time. She told me that I was being a "Bridezilla"- her exact words for wanting her to go to a store that I'm using. She stated that wanted something that would look good on her and that she could use again. I understand that. Hence, having my girls choose what style they each want from my chosen store in my color.
I pointed out to her that at her wedding, all the bridesmaids used her store of choice. They all matched her colors, without variation.
Help! Am I asking too much, to go to my bridal store of choosing so all colors match exact? It is my day. I'm letting everyone pick a dress suited to their body type and shoes they like, all within certain style (dress style or peep toe vs. closed toe) and color parameters. All choices of their would be within their individual budgets.
I'm not sure if I even want her to be in my bridal party, because she does not respect my choice and then called me a "Bridezilla". The color match is the only thing that I've been firm about for my day. If I am not being unreasonable, how can I tell her, that I do not wish for her to participate anymore because of her name calling and not respecting my choice?