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lindselitalindselita member
edited March 2014 in Wedding Party
Any advice for dealing with difficult bridal party members? One of my bridesmaids wants to get "wasted" at the wedding. I don't mind if she drinks, but I'd appreciate her help and support (not something she's known for when she's drinking). Help?
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  • chibiyuichibiyui member
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    If she wants to get trashed during the reception, thats on her. She gets to deal with the consequences.

    Just make sure your bartender knows to cut her off once she's drunk.
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  • Blue_BirdBlue_Bird member
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    lindselita said:
    Any advice for dealing with difficult bridal party members? One of my bridesmaids wants to get "wasted" at the wedding. I don't mind if she drinks, but I'd appreciate her help and support (not something she's known for when she's drinking). Help?
    I find it odd that your bridesmaid announced to you that she plans to get drunk, but if she did, this is probably not new behavior for her. As for "dealing with difficult bridal party members", don't. There isn't anything required of them outside of the ceremony, and I'm assuming she's not going to get drunk from communion wine, so let it go. Your bartender should be trained to know when to cut off a guest who has had too much.
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  • HisGirlFriday13HisGirlFriday13 member
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    What support do you anticipate needing?

    Assuming this is her general behaviour, why did you ask her to be a BM?
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    I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'
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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    What kind of help and support are you going to need from her at the wedding? If she wants to get drunk, there's really nothing you can do about it. She's an adult, yes?
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  • sarahuflsarahufl member
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    Announcing your plans to get hammered at some future date screams immaturity to me.
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    Not really sure what kind of help and support you will need once the reception starts.  And once the reception starts BMs just become guests like everyone else so she can do whatever the hell she wants, even if that is to get wasted.

    I don't get people who plan to get wasted because I have been drunk off my ass a few times (never planned but just happened) and I HATED how I felt the next day.  Because of those horrible hungover experiences I never plan to get wasted because why would I voluntarily do something that I know will make me feel like shit the next day?

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    Maggie0829 said:
    Not really sure what kind of help and support you will need once the reception starts.  And once the reception starts BMs just become guests like everyone else so she can do whatever the hell she wants, even if that is to get wasted.

    I don't get people who plan to get wasted because I have been drunk off my ass a few times (never planned but just happened) and I HATED how I felt the next day.  Because of those horrible hungover experiences I never plan to get wasted because why would I voluntarily do something that I know will make me feel like shit the next day?
    Word. The hangover from getting drunk like that is just not worth it, especially in your 30s. 
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    ClimbingBrideNY said:
    Maggie0829 said:
    Not really sure what kind of help and support you will need once the reception starts.  And once the reception starts BMs just become guests like everyone else so she can do whatever the hell she wants, even if that is to get wasted.

    I don't get people who plan to get wasted because I have been drunk off my ass a few times (never planned but just happened) and I HATED how I felt the next day.  Because of those horrible hungover experiences I never plan to get wasted because why would I voluntarily do something that I know will make me feel like shit the next day?
    Word. The hangover from getting drunk like that is just not worth it, especially in your 30s. 
    My H just got trashed on St Patty's day.  I still think he is getting over that hangover.

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  • HisGirlFriday13HisGirlFriday13 member
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    DH and his friends are planning a second bachelor party for a friend of theirs (they were all his GM at his first wedding, 10 years ago.)

    The only one of the group who is still single is planning to get shit-faced hammered at the pub crawl they're doing. I've told DH I'll be DD for him and this friend (DH never drives if he's had more than 2 or 3 beers; he's super-cautious about DUIs).

    I am not looking forward to the mess that the friend is going to be. I told DH we're using his car, so if the friend gets sick in it, I don't have to deal with it. 

    But I don't at all get the appeal. 
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    I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'
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    HisGirlFriday13 said:
    DH and his friends are planning a second bachelor party for a friend of theirs (they were all his GM at his first wedding, 10 years ago.)

    The only one of the group who is still single is planning to get shit-faced hammered at the pub crawl they're doing. I've told DH I'll be DD for him and this friend (DH never drives if he's had more than 2 or 3 beers; he's super-cautious about DUIs).

    I am not looking forward to the mess that the friend is going to be. I told DH we're using his car, so if the friend gets sick in it, I don't have to deal with it. 

    But I don't at all get the appeal. 
    I would lay a tarp down in the back of the car just in case.  Hopefully it won't be too bad and he just passes out as soon as he hits the seat.

    I really can't remember the last time I got drunk.  I have a few drinks but when I start to feel even slightly buzzed I switch to water and stay with water. No sense wasting a whole day laying on a couch with a headache and feeling nauseous.

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  • sarahuflsarahufl member
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    I can't hang anymore. I have never been much of a drinker as it is, but I really can't tolerate it anymore.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    I agree it's immature to plan to get wasted, but I also don't know what kind of help and support you're going to need at your reception. Like help peeing?
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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