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Maid of Honor from H***

Re: Maid of Honor from H***

  • msuprincess04msuprincess04 member
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    Because you shouldn't have asked her to back out. She could have been a member of your wedding party with very little involvement other than to show up in the dress you chose within her budget. We generally tell people that once you ask someone to be in the wedding party, there's no going back unless you are ready to cut that person out of your life all together. It's an awful thing to do to someone. So, yeah, it make total sense that you feel ashamed. 
    "There is always some madness in love. But there is also always some reason in madness." -Friedrich Nietzsche, "On Reading and Writing"
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  • ksurane18ksurane18 member
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    ksurane18 said:
    Yes shreakspeare...she called me an inconvenience after accepting the position of MOH...while I agree its not a decision I want...she has been negative the entire process.
    There has to be a reason for her saying this.  What have you asked of her or required of her?

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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    ksurane18 said:
    I am trying to delete my post since people are rude and arrogant on here...please refrain from commenting 
    I think you need to consult a dictionary if you think anyone has been rude and arrogant in this thread.
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot member
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    Why would you need to go to a bridal expo if all your planning was done?  

    Yes, you should feel ashamed.  You treated a friend like dirt.  You should also be ashamed of how childish you are acting here.  
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  • chibiyuichibiyui member
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    You are the most boring troll.
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  • KPBM89KPBM89 member
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    I agree with PP, but I must add this: to end a sentence, use a single .  It becomes very hard...to read...or follow...something with...a bunch of...
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  • Robyn5298Robyn5298 member
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    I think you should talk to your sister and try to repair your relationship. After all, the wedding is just one day and your sister will be your twin for life. It would be a shame for there to be an ongoing rift between you.
     
    You wrote that you feel ashamed that you asked her to step down as your MOH - why don't you tell her that? Say you had a momentary lapse of judgement and that you realize that was a hurtful thing to say. Apologize to her and let her know you want to bury the hatchet. 

    All she really needs to do is show up on the day of your wedding, on time and wearing her dress. It would be really great if she wanted to step up and do more, like helping you plan things or throwing a bachelorette party, but it isn't required. (I know you have done most of the planning yourself so you may not have much left to do, which is great!)

    Her comments about how your wedding is an inconvenience to her are definitely thoughtless, I'll give you that. But is it worth tossing her out of the wedding party over? 

    Talk to her and see if this can be smoothed over.

    Good luck!
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  • jneen101jneen101 member
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    ksurane18 said:
    I am trying to delete my post since people are rude and arrogant on here...please refrain from commenting 
    I'm not sure those words mean what you think they mean?
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  • MadHops21MadHops21 member
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    shrekspeare to the rescue with the quote! 
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  • antotoantoto member
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    OP, there is a reason you are feeling ashamed, and also very defensive.  Accept your feelings, and then go to your sister and discuss them.  I totally has a few issues with my sisters during wedding planning, and it was all STUPID stuff that wasn't worth fighting over.  I am glad I let it all go because now I am still very close with them.  It isn't worth throwing her out of your wedding and your life.  You want her standing next to you on your wedding day, trust me!

    Fix it.
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  • ksurane18ksurane18 member
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  • jneen101jneen101 member
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    Posting a question on this board was asking for no comments?
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  • CMGragainCMGragain member
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    OP, how old are you?  From your behavior on this board, which includes DDing, you are not mature enough for marriage.  A mature persons owns her mistakes, apologizes, and takes responsibility.  You have kicked your twin sister out of your wedding.  Unless she slept with your FI, this is inexcusable.  Nobody here is going to give you even the smallest bit of sympathy.  DDing is only going to attract more people to this post to read about what a fool you have made of yourself.
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  • antotoantoto member
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    Darn, looks like she responded after i commented, but I never saw it :(  Anyone know what it said?
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  • MuppetOverlordMuppetOverlord member
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    Feeling ashamed and like crap are the appropriate corresponding feelings to doing something shameful and crappy to a friend.
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    You'll never be subject to a cash bar, gap, potluck wedding, or b-list if you marry a Muppet Overlord.
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  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
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    antoto said:
    Darn, looks like she responded after i commented, but I never saw it :(  Anyone know what it said?
    I missed it, too, but I'm pretty sure she said something like this:
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  • jneen101jneen101 member
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    She said something about how she asked for no comments and I think something about us being stupid if we couldn't follow that directive.
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