Bachelorette Party Blues

Re: Bachelorette Party Blues

• Emmy1493 member

  

  March 2014

  I know it stinks and whatnot, but you really aren't entitled to a party. I know that really sucks, but if they can't host you one, they can't. Can you maybe just find a time to do some drinks instead of a trip or something and it not be a BP? 

  
  

  Also have your friends even mentioned they wanted to host one for you? General Etiquette states that it is rude for a bride to throw her own shower/party. If you are not then you are fine, but if you are, then you really shouldn't.

  
  

  
  

  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• CMGragain member

  

  March 2014

  I'm sorry you are disappointed about not having a bachelorette party.  I think showers are way better.  You will be surrounded by people who wish you well, and are looking forward to your beautiful wedding.
  Back in the 1970s, few people had bach parties.  I didn't. My daughter didn't get a shower. She was OK with that.  Just focus on your upcoming wedding.  That is what is really important.  The rest is just fluff.
  

  

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• HisGirlFriday13 member

  

  March 2014

  joannmmiller said:

  I really wanted to take a weekend trip someplace (I was even springing for flights). However, due to schedules and working friends they can't, which is fine...I understand this! So I was going to settle for something in town, but now it looks like my MOH can't do anything on a Saturday except at night in the month of May because she is having 2 birthday parties for her son and "has to" go to birthday parties of every kid from her birthing class who was also born in May! But if I move into April, my shower is the last week because I had to push it back from May due to the same issue! The weekend before that is Easter, and then the in between weekends really don't work! A wine tasting trip in town (since we have tons of wineries) would be required to be done during the day. Same thing with a spa day or something like that. I know another of my BM would have to take the day off from her business, but I know she would to do something like that! It's all just really frustrating and I'm getting to the point that I won't even be having a bachelorette party. Oh and may I just mention that my FI is going to New Orleans for his bachelor party! Knowing that I REALLY REALLY wanted to go there for my party! I'm just so at a loss on what to do and it's disheartening!

  1. You really can't host your own bachelorette party. 

  
  

  2. You're not entitled to a party. If your friends can't/won't throw you one, it just doesn't happen, however much that sucks.

  
  

  3. It sounds like you're jealous that your FI is going to New Orleans, when you really wanted to go there, and now you're not getting a fancy bachelorette party of your own. 

  
  

  I'm sure all of that sounds harsh, and disheartening, but if you lower your expectations, you'll be happier in the long run.

  

  
  

  
  

  I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'

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• saric83 member

  

  March 2014

  If someone is hosting the events for you, I would talk with them about some date changes, if possible and okay with them.  Figure out which one you would care less about having your MOH attend, and make sure that's the one in April that she can fully attend.  

  
  

  So if you would rather have her at the shower, keep that in April and do the bachelorette on that weekend in May, and she can just come out and meet you all at night.  And if you would rather have her at the bachelorette, move that to April and reschedule the shower for another date in May that works for the host and just accept that your MOH won't be there and move on.    

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