Mind. Blown.

lesliesoontobehoward · March 2014

I just got a wedding invitation... via a Facebook event.

IS NOTHING SACRED ANYMORE?!

HisGirlFriday13 · March 2014

No.

MobKaz · March 2014

Typically, the invitation is the gateway to and indicator of the ceremony and reception. If you accept, you would be most wise to bring a wallet.

CamiSelene · March 2014

Not at all. Happened to me a few years ago. I didn't go. It was a hot mess.

hikebikebemerry · March 2014

I don't really take any Facebook invite seriously, unless someone had already mentioned the event to me.

Cookie Pusher · March 2014

The only stuff I use Facebook invites for are car shows/trade shows that we're attending or vendors at (so we're not running the event but we're higher profile than a lot of the car clubs that are running the events so we put the event out there to try to boost attendance) and my annual Hangover Party, which is a come-when-you-can-between-these-hours-and-I-will-feed-you, super casual event... but all of our friends already know it happens because we've been hosting it every year for the last 11 years, so it's not really a shock to them to see the event invite.

sarahufl · March 2014

I didn't even invite people to my birthday happy hour on FB. I either asked them in person or sent an email.

saacjw · March 2014

I had a Facebook invite to a wedding once. It was a special kind of weird, but not the kind of shit show you would expect. It didn't break etiquette rules exactly, but largely because the major things that could be broken were not there (no booze= no open bar issues, no dancing= no dollar dance type thing, picnic reception+outdoor activities= no problems with seating or space). The wedding was very casual and done on the super cheap, like the cake was made by the groom's sister and the food was provided by their church group who were actually hosting the wedding for the couple. So... there's a chance it will turn out ok... probably not though...

MrandMrsMongoose · March 2014

It can get worse.. Facebook invite that said BYOB.

pinkshorts27 · March 2014

That is how we got an invite to FI's friend's wedding and we never got a thank-you note.

AllOnOneDay · March 2014

Yeah, I have gotten FB invites. Only attended one, as bride had an acceptable reason - JoP, witnesses backed out with 36 hours notice, bride couldn't make a phone call as she was at work. She's a total sweetheart, and was mortified by asking via FB but felt she was running out of time.

The couple took Mr AllOn and me to lunch and sent a very grateful thank you card. 5 years later, they are still the same nice people as before. I was honored to be a witness, and touched they trusted us that much.

Everyone else gets declined. Either it's to avoid spending money on invites, or to get as many guests as possible and my address is unknown. I don't indulge my DD's gimme gimme gimme demands, why am I going to give into an adult?

StephJean83 · March 2014

MrandMrsMongoose said:
It can get worse.. Facebook invite that said BYOB.

I just saw that a friend of mine was invited to a wedding via Facebook that was BYOB if you don't like beer or champagne. They also posted a pic of the invite, I'm assuming they will be mailing invites as my friend said she would give an updated address once she moves. They also requested that guests bring food to help out.

Chipmunk415 · March 2014

True story, met with my venue last night, as they actually owed us money (not everyone got wasted, so we came under for the booze pre pay), talked with the event coordinator, who coordinated my ceremony and was the DOC for the evening wedding after mine.

I asked her about how that wedding went, and come to find out, they invited the majority of people over FB. Only immediate family got a physical "special" invite. Coordinator knows because she overheard the tables discussing it. Oh, and the DJ was awful- ceremony started at 5, had the place till 12 am, everyone cleared out by 9 because all he was playing was Bieber and Miley Cyrus. I feel really bad for the couple, but Evil Chipmunk sees this as karma smacking them over the FB invites.

Peaseblossom55 · March 2014

I guess I feel all lucky because I have yet to receive a FB wedding invite yet .....

KRD2014 · March 2014

i think facebook is the primary course of communication for so many these days, the couple that sent the wedding invite that way probably had no clue what was wrong with it and wanted to save a few bucks. i would NEVER do invites that way ....... we did however create a private group for our engagament photos, to share with friends and family, and we used that page to share details of the upcoming wedding. as soon as we had our guest list finished and save the dates went out, we deleted the facebook group and did everything by mail. oddly, we have several people asking what happened to that page, saying it would be so easy to RSVP on facebook. we were like, NO. lol ...

afox007 · March 2014

We were with a good friend of ours and she told me to do myself a favor and make sure I do printed invitations and not fb/evites. FI almost died laughing and said if I even considered evites our computer would probably crash from the backlash I would get on TK.

CaliMel11 · March 2014

Admittedly, we did facebook message people for their addresses, and/or to let them know the date beforehand.
But we mailed out real paper invitations! I would never just send a facebook evite! People forget about those and it just makes it seem like some backyard bbq instead of an actual important event!

AllOnOneDay · March 2014

We have let people know the date and easiest airports to work with (plus which to avoid) as if they can attend, they're going to be dealing with visas and passports. Figure the more notice, the better. Heck, some of the VIPs have already booked their rooms.

So, FB notice and telling them to fly into an airport either 90 minutes or three hours from us vs crappy local which doubles ticket prices. Plus, we will get anyone who flies in to the out of state airport to our city at our cost. It's not traditional etiquette, but it seems to be courteous to guests and being a good host, so we are going with it.

Because it's usually $1200 round trip to OOS, $1400 round trip to in state or $3000 local. It feels very crass and rude to not warn our friends and family of that.

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