One of my bridesmaids is, for a lack of a better term, a drama queen.
She's normally sweet, but if she feels she's not getting enough
attention, she starts to create drama, or something to draw attention to
herself. Normally I can handle it and am ok with it, but I might be
at my whits end right now.
She got married a few years ago and I
was a BM in her wedding (yay, great!). She wanted EVERYTHING and never
asked us budgets or anything. My BM dress without alterations was
somewhere around $250 and then add a hotel, her bridal shower, and her
bachelorette on top of it, I spent approximately $1200. It wasn't
cheap, I wasn't exactly happy with spending all that money, but she
seemed happy, so I did. Her marriage lasted 3 months. When I asked
her why she got married if she 'knew it wasn't going to work from the
moment he proposed' she said, 'I wanted the wedding.' Needless to say I
was astounded, but she appeared hurt that it didn't work, needed a
shoulder, etc, so I let it go.
Fast forward and now I'm getting
married. I asked all of my girls (privately) their budgets for
dresses. All said under $200. That's fine. I picked a dress for $99,
they didn't like it but all agreed on a dress for $150, ok, fine works
for me as long as they're happy (and the dress is really pretty). This
BM wanted to plan my bachelorette party and made it quite known she
did. She asked what I would like to do and then began planning it.
Great. Problem? She keeps telling ME how much it costs, the expenses,
how she'll need everyone to pay this much, what if they don't pay this
much, etc, etc. I tried to bean-dip her enough and tell her to ask the
other BMs about helping and their thoughts - because, really, I don't
want to know! I mean, I'm not supposed to know right? If its not
affordable, plan something else, I don't care, I don't need a
bachelorette party, but please stop telling me what it's costing you and
everyone else, because it's making me feel really horrible. (For info - I thought a dinner with my friends out and then dancing for the party would be fun).
she's casually informed me that her dress came in - great!, but that
she'll pick it up when she can afford to. I just. Errrg! I asked
budgets, I kept everything under the budget. I've not requested any
special things like shoes, jewelry, hair, makeup - whatever. I know
she's not rolling in dough, but at the same time, you've known this was
happening for over a year and in that time you've gone on multiple
vacations (many expensive ones) that I could never afford and bought
many expensive clothes and had parties with your BF. Yes, she gets to
spend her money how she wants to and I'm totally in understanding of it,
but why, when it comes to my wedding/wedding events do I have to hear
about how much everything is costing her? I don't think I ever broke
down to any of the friends who's weddings I had been in how much each of
their weddings cost me, I just think it's super tacky and rude, and
well, hearing it from her - it just makes my blood boil.
Sorry I just had to rant.