Let me start by saying that I know we are not supposed to dictate attire, and I don't even want to! But people keep asking and I'm not sure what to say. I try to explain that our wedding is outdoors, relaxed, and will have a casual vibe -- and that we want our guests to be comfortable. I think this translates to "casual" or "business casual" attire… but honestly I'm not even sure what this means.
Is it ok to say, "we don't care, wear what you want"? Will this lead people to come wearing jeans? (Honestly I wouldn't care if people did, but my mother probably would.)
The other thing is my dad is asking what he should wear. Should I insist he wear what he wants, even though he is asking for suggestions? We aren't having a wedding party, and FI will wear a suit. Should I suggest my dad wear a suit? (Would it look weird if he didn't and he walks me down the aisle?) I guess I don't want him to feel overdressed/uncomfortable if he was in a suit and everyone else wore a dress shirt and nice pants.
As you can probably tell, I'm a bit fashionably-challenged when it comes to weddings and honestly I usually stress about what to wear when I'm going to one.
Other than thinking tuxedos would be way over the top, and even suits seem a bit too much for a casual wedding, I'm not sure how to define it for people who really seem to want me to.
(edited for spelling.)