Background: My wedding is on Saturday. Part of the reception is outside in a park, with a secondline band playing music and drinks (and flip flops, for those in high heels) for the guests. I have been checking the weather report to see if we need to purchase umbrellas for the guests and adjust the time we arrive (via bus, each guest has a seat) at our venue. My wedding planner and I are discussing options this afternoon.
Now, I have a co-worker, a friend from law school who now works at the same place as me, who is invited to my wedding. Since last week, she has been sending me almost hourly (but at least daily) updates about the weather. These updates are accompanied by comments, such as: "It simply can't rain that day. I can't look like a wet poodle."
I have handled these updates with as much grace as I can muster; I have told her that everything will be fine, that even if it rains there won't be an issue since there will be umbrellas provided for any brief time we are outside and no one will be left out in the rain since we'll go to the venue early, and that in the end, it's a day celebrating a marriage, and the rain won't matter.
Her reponse? "Yea, I guess, but my hair simply can't get wet. There will be pictures!"
I am well aware of the pictures (given that, you know, I booked the photographer) and that wet hair looks bad in pictures. I am concerned about my hair and my dress, but most of all, I am concerned about my guests - I don't want anyone to get sick or feel uncomfortable, so I really don't want it to rain. I am already freaking out and trying to calm myself down about this, and this is not helping. I am trying not to be a bridezilla, and I am reassuring her that it will be fine, and that NOLA weather is unpredictable and just because it says 30% chance of rain today doesn't mean it will tomorrow (it's changed from 60% to 10% to 75% to 30% in the last 4 days).
I am just trying not to pull my hair out and needed to vent, so I don't take it out on anyone. Sorry if I sound like a crazy person, I really don't mean to be this nuts. It's just the weather, and in the end I am marrying my best friend and that's what counts, but when that happy thought is countered by a guest focusing on the humidity ruining how she looks in pictures, I start freaking out about how I am not doing enough.
ETA: grammar
“Rose, before I go, I just want to tell you: you were fantastic. Absolutely fantastic. And you know what? So was I.”