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Not sure about who to pick as MOH

HeatherH92HeatherH92 member
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I have picked out my bridesmaids but I have no clue who to have as my MOH! Unfortunately, I don't have a sister or anyone who is absolutely my "best friend" so I don't automatically have someone that comes to mind.

I am torn between two girls. The first is one who I have known and been friends with since our first day of kindergarten, but she is fairly unreliable and we don't talk often anymore. The other is a friend who I have known for about 3 years now, and although we hang out and talk more often, I'm not sure we're on that "level" of friendship.

Any input or suggestions would be very much appreciated!
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Re: Not sure about who to pick as MOH

  • lc07lc07 member
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    You don't need to have a MOH. They can all just be bridesmaids. That's what I would do if I were in your situation.
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  • chibiyuichibiyui member
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    I would just have bridesmaids, and no maid of honor if I were you. 
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  • cowgirl8238cowgirl8238 member
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    I am not having a MOH for similar reasons.  Although I am close with all of the girls, I never automatically jumped to one as having to be my MOH.  As for the MOH extras (as in standing next to me during the ceremony and bearing witness on the marriage liscense) I have choosen the person I am closest to now, despite having a very long relationship with my other BM.
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    If you don't have someone who automatically comes to mind then you should just not have a MOH. Picking a MOH or BMs should not be difficult or something that you even have to question or debate. You should just know.

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  • manateehuggermanateehugger member
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    I've got two big sisters and two best friends. I didn't want to make the distinction among them, so no MOH for me it is. People don't even notice or care.
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  • HeatherH92HeatherH92 member
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    After some thinking about it, I think I am going to take all of your advice and just have all 4 of my ladies as bridesmaids and no MOH.

    Here's my next question, though. If there's no MOH, who will give a speech at our reception? I know the Best Man will give one so I don't want it to be awkward that none of my girls give a speech.
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    After some thinking about it, I think I am going to take all of your advice and just have all 4 of my ladies as bridesmaids and no MOH.

    Here's my next question, though. If there's no MOH, who will give a speech at our reception? I know the Best Man will give one so I don't want it to be awkward that none of my girls give a speech.
    Anyone can give a toast, even people not in your wedding party. All 4 can give a toast together if they want. But you shouldn't ask anyone to give a toast, rather they will tell you if they want to say a few words. 

    I was MOH at my sisters wedding and the best man gave a toast and I didn't.  I hate speaking in front of people and my sister knew that and didn't care.  It was not awkward at all.

    At my wedding no one gave any toasts.  Again not awkward.

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  • lc07lc07 member
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    I'm glad that feels like a great solution for you, OP! I really think it's a great choice you're making.

    Regarding the toasts, I agree with Maggie. All of them or any of them or none of them would be totally fine. Technically, toasts are something given in your honor so you shouldn't ask someone to give one for you but if one of them or all or a few of them offer to and you'd like to take them up on the offer you may accept.
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