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Wording of Deceased Parents on Wedding Program

sarami84sarami84 member
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Both of my parents and grandparents are deceased.  What is the proper way to list them on the wedding program....would just saying the late be appropriate???
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Re: Wording of Deceased Parents on Wedding Program

  • ScoutFScoutF member
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    edited April 2014
    We had a thank you paragraph on the bottom. You could mention something in there about how they are there in spirit. 

    ETA: I've also seen deceased family members listed by name in an In Memory Of type section on the program. 
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  • RebeccaFlowerRebeccaFlower member
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    I would probably have an in memorial on the back/bottom, not listed in with living parents or bridal party. 
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  • cowgirl8238cowgirl8238 member
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    ScoutF said:
    We had a thank you paragraph on the bottom. You could mention something in there about how they are there in spirit. 
     
    This. I think subtly is key as you don't want to bring up tons of bad emotions on the wedding day. A simple acknowldegement to all who cannot be here is enough, and although you know who its there for, not everyone will be directly reminded of the fact.
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    There are two ways you can do it:

    1) You can have a page dedicated to tributes to all deceased loved ones, where each person is listed with some appropriate text, or

    2) You can list them with the living family and bridal party members with asterisks after their names and "In Loving Memory" or something appropriate at the bottom.


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  • mimiphinmimiphin member
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    For me what I feel comfortable doing is either on the invitations or somewhere in the program having
    Mimi
    daughter of Mr (First, last) and
    the Late Mrs (First, Last).

    I had one person on here get quite upset at me for doing this since it is "not subtle". But for me it helps answer questions about where my mum is without people putting their foots in their mouths, and she is still my Mum.

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  • TheGrimReaperTheGrimReaper member
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    My programs had something like:
    Mr. & Mrs Bridesname - Parents of the Bride
    Mr. & Mrs. Groomsname - Parents of the Groom

    You could do something like
    Parents of the Bride - The late Mr. & Mrs. XXX
    Parents of the Groom - XXX

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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    mimiphin said:
    For me what I feel comfortable doing is either on the invitations or somewhere in the program having
    Mimi
    daughter of Mr (First, last) and
    the Late Mrs (First, Last).

    I had one person on here get quite upset at me for doing this since it is "not subtle". But for me it helps answer questions about where my mum is without people putting their foots in their mouths, and she is still my Mum.
    Do it in the program-not on the invitations.  The purpose of the invitations is not to map out the family tree or "honor" anyone other than the guests.  The program, on the other hand, can be used for a variety of purposes-including "honoring" family members, living and deceased.
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