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Got (kind of) invited to a PPD ... UPDATE!!

RedJacks25RedJacks25 member
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edited April 2014 in Wedding Etiquette Forum
FI got a STD in the mail for a PPD. I was added as an afterthought on the envelope, very obviously.

RedJacks25's fiance's first and last name              & RedJac
My name is off to the side...only my first name...and spelled wrong.

Then inside, there's a timeline of their love: The meet. The first date. The proposal. The wedding. Yep.

Then there's the description of what we're invited to. A wedding ceremony as they re-declare their love to each other... 6 months after they already got married.

Sigh.

UPDATE
She's now posted a picture of their STD on Facebook: "Yes, you read that right! We'd love for you to celebrate with us! Let me know if you want an invitation!" Sigh. This will be a good one, I can tell.
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Re: Got (kind of) invited to a PPD ... UPDATE!!

  • sarahuflsarahufl member
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    Go, then share!
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  • grumbledoregrumbledore member
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    HisGirlFriday13 said:
    Oh, holy hell. Seriously???

    I'd be RSVP'ing no to that shitshow so damn fast....

    But I kind of want you to go and report back on it to us!!
    This is exactly how I feel lol.

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  • cowgirl8238cowgirl8238 member
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    I am sorry they did that to you.  I guess at least they are being upfront about the fact that they are already married. Also, although I would love to hear  how shitty list PPD is, I would personally decline.
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  • RedJacks25RedJacks25 member
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    Unfortunately not going isn't an option. She's a really good friend of FI...And he's mad that I'm offended by all the rudeness. I always knew it was rude, but I didn't realize how hurtful it would be to spell someone's name wrong. Take note, people!

    The good news is that I'm pretty confident I'll have a lot to report back after it's over!
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  • APDSS22APDSS22 member
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    RedJacks25 said:
    Unfortunately not going isn't an option. She's a really good friend of FI...And he's mad that I'm offended by all the rudeness. I always knew it was rude, but I didn't realize how hurtful it would be to spell someone's name wrong. Take note, people!

    The good news is that I'm pretty confident I'll have a lot to report back after it's over!
    I'm sorry your FI feels obligated to attend something the wife didn't even bother inviting you correctly to.  Of course now you can tell us all about it, but it's still not so fun for you.
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  • Emmy1493Emmy1493 member
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    CMGragain said:
    Make sure and buy them the traditional metal chicken as a PPD gift.
    Heck, I would give her an Etiquette for Dummies book, AND a large metal rooster.
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  • APDSS22APDSS22 member
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    @RedJacks25 I would have your FI get the gift if he thinks one is necessary for this debacle.  It's his friend, presumably he knows her better and since he's the one pushing you to come in the first place, he should know that any gift you pick out would be tempered by that. 
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  • syoun1njsyoun1nj member
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    I went to one last weekend 4 months after their wedding. Cash bar to boot. Also they made sure to tell us at our wedding how they'd NEVER have  STUPID WEDDING. 

    We bought them a card and a $25 target gift card. the plan was to keep the gift card if it was cash bar but husband chickened out and told me to give it to them anyway. 
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  • Jells2dot0Jells2dot0 mod
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    syoun1nj said:
    I went to one last weekend 4 months after their wedding. Cash bar to boot. Also they made sure to tell us at our wedding how they'd NEVER have  STUPID WEDDING. 

    We bought them a card and a $25 target gift card. the plan was to keep the gift card if it was cash bar but husband chickened out and told me to give it to them anyway. 
    Oh man! I still feel sorry for your situation. They were really shitty hosts.

     







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  • PandemoniaPandemonia member
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    Schatzi13 said:  I'm not sure what a proper PPD gift would be, though.

     How about something you've won in a tombola? Ideally with the winning ticket still taped to it. Then when they complain about not getting a proper wedding gift you can respond with "Oh, silly me! I hadn't realised this was a     proper wedding!"
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  • grumbledoregrumbledore member
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    ...I didn't even consider the thought of having to bring a gift. Now I'm more pissed. Why should I buy you a gift for your not-wedding?
    I would absolutely not bring a gift. If your FI wants to, that's his prerogative.

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  • cowgirl8238cowgirl8238 member
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    RedJacks25 said:
    ...I didn't even consider the thought of having to bring a gift. Now I'm more pissed. Why should I buy you a gift for your not-wedding?

    I wouldn't give them anything more than a generic card...but thats just me.
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  • HaileyDancingbearHaileyDancingbear member
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    GIve them a card but slap the bride's name on as an afterthought and spell it wrong.  Stuff it with monopoly money to cover the price for admission for such a wonderful play.  

    I have my snarky pants on today.
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  • Ashes_3Ashes_3 member
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    Wow! Just let your fiancé get a gift if wants to.
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  • RedJacks25RedJacks25 member
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    Updated my OP. Goodness.
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  • kitty8403kitty8403 member
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    "Let me know if you want an invitation"? She's really putting a lot of thought into her guest list, isn't she?
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  • vulpiepopvulpiepop member
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    How hard is it to look someone up on your Facebook and make sure the spelling is correct? :-/

    I'm also confused about the whole "let's invite everyone on Facebook" mentality...They still have to feed everyone (and make sure everyone has a place to sit, provide drinks assuming it's not a dry event, etc.). What happens if all of those people show up?

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