I know weddings aren't easy to plan, but ours seems to be a tug of war between my mom, me and my fiance. My mom knows how she wants things and since she's paying for the food for our wedding, I sort of have been leaving that to her. I've been handling everything else, while working 40+ hours a week, school, and trying to apply and figure out visa and immigration expenses (my FI is a New Zealander and I'm moving over with him). Anyhow, there has been all this needless drama about the food, my mom wanting one thing, my FI giving his opinion and me apparently trying to hard to make them happen when they aren't really reasonable, and today my FI and I talked on the phone and he basically said why not just have his sister and mom help out with it and get it done. I'm fine with that, but now I'm stressed out because I have to go discuss it with my mom and she has caused most of the stress with wedding planning. It feels like we're going in circles with the food, and it's not even that important!
Also, I just found out today that my FI thought what I was doing with and where I was going with the flowers for our wedding was outragous and getting too big, and he didn't tell me that until today when I was discussing changing flowers with him. The whole reason I was going bigger with the flowers was that I got it into my head that he wanted more, when he really didn't. I have no idea how that mixup occured.
If I could do it exactly how I wanted to, I'd just go to the courthouse in a white dress with my FI and photographers, and that would be it. But instead our tiny rustic wedding (30 people at a log cabin) is turning into a big drama, and my mom wants a million things, my FI doesn't see how it has to be so complicated, and I feel like I'm the one everyone expects to do all the decision making, but if it was up to me I'd be married already and have gone to the courthouse! A actual wedding is only happening because my parents would be ticked if I didn't, and honestly I don't really know why else we're even having a ceremony.
I just feel so done with the planning. It sucks, and it keeps getting more and more complicated and frusterating.