Brain storming ideas on ways to include fiances sisters

Re: Brain storming ideas on ways to include fiances sisters

• Jen4948 member

  

  April 2014

  The only ways to "include" someone in the wedding party are as bridesmaids/men, groomsmen/maids, ushers, readers, or for kids of the right age, flower girls/ring bearers.

  
  

  There are no other roles available.  It is still an honor to be a guest.

  
  

  If you do not want to include your FSILs as bridemaids, your FI can include them as groomsmaids.  Or they can be ushers or readers.  But do not ask them to do anything else.

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• AddieCake member

  

  April 2014

  Ditto Jen. If your fiance wants them in the wedding party, they can stand on his side, or they can be readers or ushers. You should never "include" people just for the sake of including them. Please do not come up with some task for them to perform during the wedding. 

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• HisGirlFriday13 member

  

  April 2014

  Ditto PPs, who covered all the bases. Please send Knot Porscha a PM and have her change your user name to something that's not your real name. Internet safety, yo.

  

  
  

  
  

  I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'

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• JaxInBlue member

  

  April 2014

  Ditto PPs.  Short of being an honor attendant for you or your FI, doing a reading/being a musical soloist, or taking a role in your service such as presenting the gifts during a Catholic Mass, there aren't "jobs" to be given out.  Being a guest is an honor, though, and you can always include them in the people who receive boutonnieres or corsages if you are having them for parents/grandparents, etc.
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• jneen101 member

  

  April 2014

  Can the 22 year old pull the 13 year old down the aisle in a wagon?
  

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• AddieCake member

  

  April 2014

  @jneen101

  
  

  I fucking love you. 

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• lc07 member

  

  April 2014 edited April 2014

  I had my best friend from high school be a witness and sign our marriage certificate. In my state you can have two witnesses. That is an honor, IMO. I also agree with the PPs that they could also be readers. In my opinion, Ushers are not an honored roll, though many people would disagree with me on that.

  
  

  Either way you can give them corsages.

  
  

  ETA: I think ushering is an honor if you're walking someone down the aisle in the processional. If you're there to simply help guests be seated I think that's a "job" and unnecessary as guests can seat themselves. That seems very groomsmen-runner-up to me.

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• zitiqueen member

  

  April 2014

   

  HayleyMarieShen said:

  Hey all,

  
  

  I am just recently engaged. I already have picked my bridesmaids, which in total in 5. Now the issue is that my fiance has two younger sisters the oldest is 22 and the younger one is 13. I am closer to the youngest. I did not want a huge wedding party so I have not asked them to be bridesmaids. And I can't include one without the other. Also, my fiance has my brother in his wedding party but they are also very close. I have a feeling there is going to be some feelings hurt because my fiance has my brother as a GM, but I am not including them.

  
  

  So to make a long story short. I am trying to come up with some ways to include them, that does not add onto my bridesmaid number, if that makes sense.
  

  
  

  Thanks guys

  
  Why can't you have them as bridesmaids?

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• mellyD2014 member

  

  April 2014

  Just wanted to say that I agree with the two PPs who suggested getting them corsages. That's a great way to honor them without giving them a BS job like guestbook signer or whatever.
  

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  April 2014

  What about readers? If not, just include them on special events like the bridal shower. The 22 year should be able to attend the bachlorette party. Depending on what your BM plan for your bachlorette party, the 13 year old may or may not be able to join in on that. But talk to your FMIL and tell her that if they go shopping for new outfits for your FSIL, that you would love to join them for some girl time. Also if you are getting your nails done before the wedding, what about inviting them along. I think it's more important to spend time with them to make them feel like family then it is to give them special things to do at the wedding.  

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