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rsvp help for bridal shower

hyechica81hyechica81 member
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edited April 2014 in Wedding Etiquette Forum
so my sister is the one hosting my bridal shower but shes an hour away at college so we put her as the contact but my moms number as it would be easier for people to call my mom and leave a message or what not..


my shower is at the end of april and we still have some rsvps that have not called in yet deadline is the 18th. some are my fi family that live on the west cost ( we are on the east) and i know they wont me making a long trip for one day. but there are like 9 local people who did not respond yet

do we call them to see if they are coming or do we just let it go and assume they are not coming. none of the invites got sent back to my house so everyone should have gotten them.

my sister is doing a buffet lunch at a local restaurant and they would need a head count a week before to make sure they make enough food
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    Either your sister or your Mom should call the people who have not RSVPd.  You shouldn't call or do anything.

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  • JCbride2015JCbride2015 member
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    The guests still have until the 18th to RSVP, correct?  Do nothing for now.  On the 19th or 20th, your sister or your mom should call the guests who haven't responded and ask them.  You should not do anything.
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  • ScoutFScoutF member
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    Agree with Maggie. It sounds like you've done too much already. Wait until after the RSVP date, then have your mom and sister make some phone calls. 
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    Forgot to include what JCBride did.  Nothing should be done until after the RSVP deadline.  To call before would be naggish.

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  • InkdancerInkdancer member
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    Take a deep breath. Plenty of people wait until the RSVP date to send a response. After that day, your sister or mom can call them.

    For once with something wedding-related, you don't have to worry about it. You do not have to--and should not--be handling anything shower-related.
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  • hyechica81hyechica81 member
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    edited April 2014
    i know and i am letting them do all the work but my mom and sister said they will not  anyone because that is tacky i want to make sure no one forgot about the shower and that's why i want them to call but they are telling me they are refusing to
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  • InkdancerInkdancer member
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    If they aren't going to do the calling, then it's on them. You shouldn't worry about it. Whoever is there will be there, and whoever is not will not be there.
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    i know and i am letting them do all the work but my mom and sister said they will not  anyone because that is tacky i want to make sure no one forgot about the shower and that's why i want them to call but they are telling me they are refusing to
    It is not tacky to call up people who did not RSVP to see if they are or aren't coming. They need an accurate headcount for food and calling is the only way that they can get it. But you can't force them to do something. So it is on them if they don't call and have people show up that they don't know about.

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    STARMOON44 said:
    If they don't call, that's their issue to deal with. Yours is capitalization and punctuation.

    A little snarky, but you said what I have ALWAYS thought about this poster! Bwahahaha!
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