Hello! This is my first post on the Knot
I became engaged to the love of my life in September 2013 in the Dominican Republic and our wedding is September 6th, 2014
Both my friends (bridesmaids) and I are new to the wedding world and after going through posts about bridesmaid dresses and the cost, I've become a little mad at myself. I'm a very indecisive person and I finally settled on a bridal shop I wanted all my girls to go to, to buy their dresses. I made a big mistake in not asking what everyones budget was and I feel really bad about it now. I plan on sending out an apology tomorrow to each of them, apologizing for not asking for their dress budget before hand and that I will be more considerate toward their finances on anything in the future, even though the dresses are all they have to pay for, and shoes if they don't have any, their choice in style as well, just nude in color. This is my bad (Sorry! I don't want to get yelled at on here :b ), and I feel really bad about it, but it's not the problem I'm having.
The dresses were in the $200 or so range and plus a 15% discount. They knew the color to get, chiffon, and short but any style they liked. My MOH sent out a massive email to all the girls explaining the shop, and the price range of the dresses, it was very detailed, organized and to the point. They've known they were going to be bridesmaids basically since I got engaged with the exception of maybe two girls. It may just be the logical thing for me to do, as well as my MOH as we agree with each other, if you know you're going to be a bridesmaid, shouldn't you start saving a small amount of money for your dress, shoes, jewelry, etc? This is my own opinion and I know others won't agree with it, thats fine. It's what I would do if I knew I was going to be in a wedding. Only one bridesmaid complained about the price (See Below).
My one friend, who out of all the girls, spends tons of her money on LV handbags, Tory Burch shoes, LB shoes and all sorts of expensive things, complained about the cost. This was today, the day she bought her dress, (Tuesday) when Saturday she asked me to go to the mall with her to return some Steve Madden shoes and to buy TWO pairs of Tory Burch sandals that would cost well over $200. Maybe I'm being insensitive but I guess I'm a little put off by the fact she has no problem dropping over $200 on shoes but she's complaining about a dress she obviously can afford thats for my wedding. It's silly but I suppose I feel second to the shoes, I feel like its a burden for her to buy her bridesmaid dress. She even said she was going to give us a $500 wedding gift which I told her wasn't necessary at all. Her last text to me tonight was "I'm don't talking about it." I feel like outside of wedding things, money is no issue, then all of a sudden it is for my special day.
Going back to the email, my friend said she never got it but also never bothered to check her junk mail or text my MOH asking her to send it again so she had all the details before she went dress shopping. My MOH sent out a text telling everyone she sent and email to them, I triple checked all numbers I gave her and the email addresses before I sent them. So I know she got it, it just probably went to her junk folder, which happened to another person but they found it okay. She was really snooty in her text to me when I asked if she could try looking for it in her junk folder. "How am I supposed to find it if I never got it?" Is what she said. I know texting can sometimes read in different tones to different people.
I could be totally crazy and insensitive, but I don't know how to handle this situation with my friend. Help? Thanks