Hi, everyone! I'm still really new around here but I thought I would share my news...we got engaged last night! He told my parents when he actually bought the ring, and then got their permission before actually asking me. I called them first to tell them, but of course they already knew. After that, I called my very best friend. But now....who do I tell? His family doesn't speak to us unless they need something (very long story behind all that) and when I mentioned it to him he said they can find out when they find out. But now who do I tell? I don't have social media (GASP, I know!) so I can't just put up some generic "we're engaged" post.
Secondly, I thought this might be a good place for my post since I am a junior in college, and some of the other boards can seem a bit judgmental about younger brides. FI and I have talked extensively about this for a long time, and we both agree that we have a list of things that need to be done before we start planning a wedding (graduate, get a full time job, own our own home, etc). We are fully aware that it might take years to accomplish these things, and we're entirely ok with that. We had planned on a very long engagement. If we're spending forever together, then what's the big deal right? My parents are fully aware of this, and they are expecting our long engagement and know there's no planning going on anytime soon....but how do I explain this to others? Should I even have to explain this to anyone? Or just tell them we haven't set a date yet? Because everyone's first question after you tell them you're engaged is "have you set a date?".
Finally, I guess this is an odd situation. When FI purchased my engagement ring he also picked out the wedding band. There was a wedding band that matched perfectly and he just couldn't pass it up, so he bought both. When he asked me last night, he put both rings on my finger. I asked him, and he said that he wanted me to go ahead and have both, because he doesn't want the wedding band sitting in a drawer for years and years. The way he looks at it, he bought it, I know he has it, so I might as well just wear it. He says when we get married he will have the inside of the bands engraved, and that will be my "new ring" on our wedding day. I'm perfectly ok with this, because I see his reasoning. My parents say they are ok with it because they see his reasoning too. However, when people look at my hand they're going to assume I'm already married. How do handle these questions? I don't really think it's anyone's business but I know it will come up.
Also, any great advice on how to handle snarky reactions from people who say we're too young?
Thanks guys!