What has planning your wedding taught you about YOU?

Re: What has planning your wedding taught you about YOU?

• klburke88 member

  

  April 2014

  I'm a horrible procrastinator, but I already knew that. I'm very decisive. Once I decide I like something or want something in particular, that's it and there's no changing my mind.

  

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• Kristen625 member

  

  April 2014

  @sder0320 I am your polar opposite.  I may be too laid back.  Through this whole thing, I have learned that both me and FI are very laid back people, and we don't stress about the little things.  I have also come to realize that people love that about us.  Our baker, florist, venue manager, dj, and photographer have all commented about how laid back we are and how nice it is to work with people like us.  We both just take life as it comes, which I think shows yet another reason why FI and I are so well matched for one another.  Neither one of us stress about the small things, because to be honest, our wedding is sort of a small thing in our life in a way.  It is one single day in the many years we have to come in our life together as husband and wife.  FI said it perfectly, "All it is is a fancy party."  Yes we are getting married, however I know for a fact he would be just as happy going down the court house and getting it done.  Our marriage is what is important. 
  
  So I suppose that is my advise to you @sder0320 try to remember, it is one day.  Your guests won't remember what center pieces you had, they won't remember your wedding colors, and many many other details that you will probably always remember (mostly cause you'll have all the photos) that will make a difference to you, but not to them.  Sure there were some "visions" I had of my wedding that I too had to let go of, but what came in their place is better.  Remember, as long as their is laughter, and dancing, people will have a good time at your wedding.  I hope that at your wedding, you're able to relax and let go and just let people enjoy themselves on their own.  They have been having a good time without you for years, so trust they know what they are doing, and enjoy your day.  Cause that is all it is.  One. Single. Day.
  

  

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• Lisandrat member

  

  April 2014

  I felt the same way at my bridal shower @sder0320 and looking back I really regret it. I was so concerned about everyone except me. That was a major lesson because I don't want to look back at my wedding day and wish I would have enjoyed myself. Another thing is I stress wayyyyyy too much about the little things. I am slowly learning to let things go and just tell myself it's all going to work out. Wow what a deep post!! Lol it's really great to reflect on these things

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• msdidonato member

  

  April 2014 edited April 2014

  @kristen625.. my FI and I are the same way. I kept getting comments about how vendors wished most couples were this laid back and not so stressed over small details. 

  
  

  I think the biggest thing I learned was that I am way more traditional than I thought I was. That and I have really learned that I am a good planner/organizer. My mom made a comment the other day that she was impressed how unstressed I was about the whole thing. Granted I have had my freak out moments like most people have, but they are few and far in between each other, and usually about money.  I just made sure that every week, I accomplished something for the wedding and then didn't think about the wedding on other days. 

  
  

  Another thing I noticed is that I HATED being asked about the wedding and talking to people about it. I don't like being the center of attention, or really talking about myself. So when people would politely ask to make conversations, my answer was always "It is going well. I am ready for it to be here". I would stutter and stumble my words if they asked the colors, or how many bridesmaids etc. 

  
  

  And one last thing- I learned how people really are regarding weddings. I had a BEST FRIEND from college who kick me out of her wedding and told me I "was stealing her thunder" because we scheduled our wedding 2 weeks before hers. Left Field if you ask me. Nothing in my life has drastically changed since planning a wedding. Apparently, some people take it really far and consume their lives with it. 

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• tammym1001 member

  

  April 2014

  @sder0320 - I am a lot like you are and I feel bad that you weren't able to enjoy your shower. I put all my natural tendencies on the back burner and just let myself enjoy the shower. My MOH put so much work into it and she did a great job so I just enjoyed it. I'm so glad I was able to do that. Please try to make sure you enjoy your wedding. I promise nobody at your wedding is going to be expecting you to wait on them or check on them constantly. They want you to enjoy your day.

  
  

  As for what I learned about myself: I learned that I can let some things go and the little details weren't as important as I thought they would be. Normally I stress myself out over every single little thing, but I'm learning that sometimes I can just let go. I also learned that there are a lot of people who really care about me and want me to be happy. I think weddings bring out the best and worst in people and I'm really glad to know that my friends and family are all really happy for me.

  
  

  One thing I learned about FI and I is that he wants me to have whatever I want that will make me happy Win for me! LOL

  
  

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• kkleigh10 member

  

  April 2014

  msdidonato said:

  @kristen625.. my FI and I are the same way. I kept getting comments about how vendors wished most couples were this laid back and not so stressed over small details. 

  
  

  I think the biggest thing I learned was that I am way more traditional than I thought I was. That and I have really learned that I am a good planner/organizer. My mom made a comment the other day that she was impressed how unstressed I was about the whole thing. Granted I have had my freak out moments like most people have, but they are few and far in between each other, and usually about money.  I just made sure that every week, I accomplished something for the wedding and then didn't think about the wedding on other days. 

  
  

  Another thing I noticed is that I HATED being asked about the wedding and talking to people about it. I don't like being the center of attention, or really talking about myself. So when people would politely ask to make conversations, my answer was always "It is going well. I am ready for it to be here". I would stutter and stumble my words if they asked the colors, or how many bridesmaids etc. 

  
  

  And one last thing- I learned how people really are regarding weddings. I had a BEST FRIEND from college who kick me out of her wedding and told me I "was stealing her thunder" because we scheduled our wedding 2 weeks before hers. Left Field if you ask me. Nothing in my life has drastically changed since planning a wedding. Apparently, some people take it really far and consume their lives with it. 

  @msdidonato - I feel exactly the same about being surprised at how traditional I really am! Growing up I NEVER dreamed about my wedding and in the fleeting moments I thought about maybe one day getting married, I assumed it would be some non-traditional ceremony with a reception in my parent's back yard.

  
  

  Fast forward to reality, and next month I'm getting married in a Catholic church wearing a gorgeous lace dress, my weddding colors are blush and ivory, and our reception is at a yacht club. I could not believe how drawn I was to super classic invitations (a year ago I probably would have thought they were boring!) and flowers that are "timeless" (I'm barfing even as I type this). But it's what I ended up loving and I cannot wait to see it all put together. Its so crazy how things work out.
  

  
  

  
  

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• Kristen625 member

  

  April 2014

  @tammym1001 that last part made me laugh. My FI is the same way. Just recently I talked to him about how I really wanted a professional to dye/highlight my hair. I have a LOT of hair so it usually costs quite a lot. After mentioning it to him he looked at me and said "would it make you happy?" To which I replied that it really would. He responded with "then just do it." I have since got it done and she did a great job (it's the same girl that will be doing my hair for the wedding) and it cost far less than expected. Which was nice

  

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• tammym1001 member

  

  April 2014

  Kristen625 said:

  @tammym1001 that last part made me laugh. My FI is the same way. Just recently I talked to him about how I really wanted a professional to dye/highlight my hair. I have a LOT of hair so it usually costs quite a lot. After mentioning it to him he looked at me and said "would it make you happy?" To which I replied that it really would. He responded with "then just do it." I have since got it done and she did a great job (it's the same girl that will be doing my hair for the wedding) and it cost far less than expected. Which was nice

  That's awesome! FI asked me on Friday about ring shopping and if we were putting a budget on it. I said I don't know because I don't know what wedding bands cost. He said never mind we'll just get you want so you will be happy. I don't like your sad face and I don't want to be the reason for it. LOL

  
  

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