NEED SUGGESTIONS - about multiple kids in the wedding party.

dymonds88 · April 2014

Hi everyone - I am getting married in October 2014. I have 2 nephews (fiance's family) that will be my ring bearers, and I have 1 niece (also fiance's family) that will be my flower girl. My best friend is my maid of honor, and she has 2 young sons. My MOH is like my sister, and her 2 boys call me Aunt. I really want to ask them to be in my bridal party, but I'm not sure what title I should give them. When would they walk down the isle? Before ring bearers? After ring bearers, etc.? Does anyone have any suggestions, without switching the roles of the other kids? Thanks in advance!

Jen4948 · April 2014

Call them ring bearers and have them come down the aisle at the same time as the other ring bearers, just before the flower girl, your bridesmaids and MOH, and you.

There is no need to give these two boys different titles or treat them differently than the other ring bearers.

HisGirlFriday13 · April 2014

dymonds88 said:

Hi everyone - I am getting married in October 2014. I have 2 nephews (fiance's family) that will be my ring bearers, and I have 1 niece (also fiance's family) that will be my flower girl. My best friend is my maid of honor, and she has 2 young sons. My MOH is like my sister, and her 2 boys call me Aunt. I really want to ask them to be in my bridal party, but I'm not sure what title I should give them. When would they walk down the isle? Before ring bearers? After ring bearers, etc.? Does anyone have any suggestions, without switching the roles of the other kids? Thanks in advance!

Ditto Jenn. Call them RBs and have them walk down the aisle with the other kids. There's not really anything else you can do with them, given that they're young.

Four RBs seems a bit extreme, but that's JMHO. You could also just have them take pictures with you after the wedding.

MairePoppy · April 2014

You could call them pages. They could walk down the aisle before the ring bearers or at the start of the processional. The only duty for children in the wedding party is looking cute.

Maggie0829 · April 2014

HisGirlFriday13 said:

dymonds88 said:

Hi everyone - I am getting married in October 2014. I have 2 nephews (fiance's family) that will be my ring bearers, and I have 1 niece (also fiance's family) that will be my flower girl. My best friend is my maid of honor, and she has 2 young sons. My MOH is like my sister, and her 2 boys call me Aunt. I really want to ask them to be in my bridal party, but I'm not sure what title I should give them. When would they walk down the isle? Before ring bearers? After ring bearers, etc.? Does anyone have any suggestions, without switching the roles of the other kids? Thanks in advance!

Ditto Jenn. Call them RBs and have them walk down the aisle with the other kids. There's not really anything else you can do with them, given that they're young.

Four RBs seems a bit extreme, but that's JMHO. You could also just have them take pictures with you after the wedding.

I would just do this. I would skip including them in the wedding and just make sure to let your photographer know that you want to take some pictures with just them.

Istoleahalo · April 2014

My FI's Godson, who will be 2 1/2, will be the "sign holder" for lack of a better term. He will walk between my flower girls (I have 2 of them) and hold a sign that reads "Here Comes the Bride" FI's nephew is our RB.

Jen4948 · April 2014

Istoleahalo said:

My FI's Godson, who will be 2 1/2, will be the "sign holder" for lack of a better term. He will walk between my flower girls (I have 2 of them) and hold a sign that reads "Here Comes the Bride" FI's nephew is our RB.

Why do you need signs? Isn't the music supposed to announce "here comes the bride?" And how in the world can a 2 1/2 year old manage a sign? This just seems like an excessive effort at being cute. I'd just take photos with them without making a 2 1/2 year old carry a sign.

Istoleahalo · April 2014

Jen4948 said:

Istoleahalo said:

My FI's Godson, who will be 2 1/2, will be the "sign holder" for lack of a better term. He will walk between my flower girls (I have 2 of them) and hold a sign that reads "Here Comes the Bride" FI's nephew is our RB.

Why do you need signs? Isn't the music supposed to announce "here comes the bride?" And how in the world can a 2 1/2 year old manage a sign? This just seems like an excessive effort at being cute. I'd just take photos with them without making a 2 1/2 year old carry a sign.

Because that is the way that we decided to include him

FI wanted to include him but didn't think he would walk down the isle with FI's nephew who he doesn't know, but would do better with the girls, who he does know.

Jen4948 · April 2014

Istoleahalo said:

Jen4948 said:

Istoleahalo said:

My FI's Godson, who will be 2 1/2, will be the "sign holder" for lack of a better term. He will walk between my flower girls (I have 2 of them) and hold a sign that reads "Here Comes the Bride" FI's nephew is our RB.

Why do you need signs? Isn't the music supposed to announce "here comes the bride?" And how in the world can a 2 1/2 year old manage a sign? This just seems like an excessive effort at being cute. I'd just take photos with them without making a 2 1/2 year old carry a sign.

Because that is the way that we decided to include him FI wanted to include him but didn't think he would walk down the isle with FI's nephew who he doesn't know, but would do better with the girls, who he does know.

Nothing wrong with having him walk with the girls. But I'd skip the sign. I think that's asking too much of a kid who isn't 3 years old, plus it's unnecessary. He'll look just as cute without it.

QueerFemme · April 2014

I used to really like that "here comes the bride" sign, but not it's so incredibly overdone.

We had five kids that we wanted to include. We didn't have a ring bearer, so we just called them all "Flower kids".

they were supposed to walk seperately, but half way down the aisle they ended up all bunched up and walking together.

Kids don't really need a "job", they just look cute and walk down the aisle.

Istoleahalo · April 2014

Jen4948 said:

Istoleahalo said:

Jen4948 said:

Istoleahalo said:

My FI's Godson, who will be 2 1/2, will be the "sign holder" for lack of a better term. He will walk between my flower girls (I have 2 of them) and hold a sign that reads "Here Comes the Bride" FI's nephew is our RB.

Why do you need signs? Isn't the music supposed to announce "here comes the bride?" And how in the world can a 2 1/2 year old manage a sign? This just seems like an excessive effort at being cute. I'd just take photos with them without making a 2 1/2 year old carry a sign.

Because that is the way that we decided to include him FI wanted to include him but didn't think he would walk down the isle with FI's nephew who he doesn't know, but would do better with the girls, who he does know.

Nothing wrong with having him walk with the girls. But I'd skip the sign. I think that's asking too much of a kid who isn't 3 years old, plus it's unnecessary. He'll look just as cute without it.

Lots of things in a wedding ceremony are technically unnecessary, but we do it because it's cute/nice/what we want to do. This is what I'm doing and as such it is my answer to the OP since she was looking for suggestions. She can take it or leave it as she chooses.

I also just thought of something else. At another wedding I was at a couple of the bridemaids/groomsmen's kids just walked with their parents down the isle. Maybe you can have them just walk down and stand, but not really have a "job"? Mini-groomsmen? lol. Or perhaps you can have them help pass out programs/bubbbles/etc?

Jen4948 · April 2014

Istoleahalo said:

Jen4948 said:

Istoleahalo said:

Jen4948 said:

Istoleahalo said:

My FI's Godson, who will be 2 1/2, will be the "sign holder" for lack of a better term. He will walk between my flower girls (I have 2 of them) and hold a sign that reads "Here Comes the Bride" FI's nephew is our RB.

Why do you need signs? Isn't the music supposed to announce "here comes the bride?" And how in the world can a 2 1/2 year old manage a sign? This just seems like an excessive effort at being cute. I'd just take photos with them without making a 2 1/2 year old carry a sign.

Because that is the way that we decided to include him FI wanted to include him but didn't think he would walk down the isle with FI's nephew who he doesn't know, but would do better with the girls, who he does know.

Nothing wrong with having him walk with the girls. But I'd skip the sign. I think that's asking too much of a kid who isn't 3 years old, plus it's unnecessary. He'll look just as cute without it.

Lots of things in a wedding ceremony are technically unnecessary, but we do it because it's cute/nice/what we want to do. This is what I'm doing and as such it is my answer to the OP since she was looking for suggestions. She can take it or leave it as she chooses.

I also just thought of something else. At another wedding I was at a couple of the bridemaids/groomsmen's kids just walked with their parents down the isle. Maybe you can have them just walk down and stand, but not really have a "job"? Mini-groomsmen? lol. Or perhaps you can have them help pass out programs/bubbbles/etc?

The bolded is exactly what I'd suggest. I wouldn't trust 2 year-olds to carry or help pass out anything.

chibiyui · April 2014

Istoleahalo said:

Jen4948 said:

Istoleahalo said:

My FI's Godson, who will be 2 1/2, will be the "sign holder" for lack of a better term. He will walk between my flower girls (I have 2 of them) and hold a sign that reads "Here Comes the Bride" FI's nephew is our RB.

Why do you need signs? Isn't the music supposed to announce "here comes the bride?" And how in the world can a 2 1/2 year old manage a sign? This just seems like an excessive effort at being cute. I'd just take photos with them without making a 2 1/2 year old carry a sign.

Because that is the way that we decided to include him

FI wanted to include him but didn't think he would walk down the isle with FI's nephew who he doesn't know, but would do better with the girls, who he does know.

Why can't he be a flower boy?

Istoleahalo · April 2014

How did this become about my choice for my wedding? This is about answering the OP's question - asking for suggestions for what else she could have her MOH's children do. I only mentioned what I was doing in order to answer her question and offer her an idea. I don't recall asking about my own. I can appreciate that you would not do it at your wedding and I can respect your opinions even if I do not 100% agree with it, but I don't think that we need to continue to take up this post discussing weather or not my choices for my wedding are what you would or wouldn't do. If I choose to reconsider, I'll make my own post where you can tell me all about it

OP, I hope you've gotten some good suggestions and you can figure something out for the little ones. Sorry we took over a bit with a preoccupation about my FI's godson.

Jen4948 · April 2014

Istoleahalo said:

How did this become about my choice for my wedding? This is about answering the OP's question - asking for suggestions for what else she could have her MOH's children do. I only mentioned what I was doing in order to answer her question and offer her an idea. I don't recall asking about my own. I can appreciate that you would not do it at your wedding and I can respect your opinions even if I do not 100% agree with it, but I don't think that we need to continue to take up this post discussing weather or not my choices for my wedding are what you would or wouldn't do. If I choose to reconsider, I'll make my own post where you can tell me all about it

OP, I hope you've gotten some good suggestions and you can figure something out for the little ones. Sorry we took over a bit with a preoccupation about my FI's godson.

Because whenever you post anywhere on the Internet, regardless of whether or not it answers a question specifically asked by an OP in a forum thread, you make yourself a target for a response to it, whether you like it or not or asked about it or not.

If you don't want commentary on what you post, the only solution is not to post about it.

Istoleahalo · April 2014

Jen4948 said:

Istoleahalo said:

How did this become about my choice for my wedding? This is about answering the OP's question - asking for suggestions for what else she could have her MOH's children do. I only mentioned what I was doing in order to answer her question and offer her an idea. I don't recall asking about my own. I can appreciate that you would not do it at your wedding and I can respect your opinions even if I do not 100% agree with it, but I don't think that we need to continue to take up this post discussing weather or not my choices for my wedding are what you would or wouldn't do. If I choose to reconsider, I'll make my own post where you can tell me all about it

OP, I hope you've gotten some good suggestions and you can figure something out for the little ones. Sorry we took over a bit with a preoccupation about my FI's godson.

Because whenever you post anywhere on the Internet, regardless of whether or not it answers a question specifically asked by an OP in a forum thread, you make yourself a target for a response to it, whether you like it or not or asked about it or not.

If you don't want commentary on what you post, the only solution is not to post about it.

You are correct...I guess I forget that not everyone has the manners I was raised with, while other like to hide behind a computer screen and forget the manners that they were raised with. Carry on...

Maggie0829 · April 2014

Jen4948 said:

Istoleahalo said:

How did this become about my choice for my wedding? This is about answering the OP's question - asking for suggestions for what else she could have her MOH's children do. I only mentioned what I was doing in order to answer her question and offer her an idea. I don't recall asking about my own. I can appreciate that you would not do it at your wedding and I can respect your opinions even if I do not 100% agree with it, but I don't think that we need to continue to take up this post discussing weather or not my choices for my wedding are what you would or wouldn't do. If I choose to reconsider, I'll make my own post where you can tell me all about it

OP, I hope you've gotten some good suggestions and you can figure something out for the little ones. Sorry we took over a bit with a preoccupation about my FI's godson.

Because whenever you post anywhere on the Internet, regardless of whether or not it answers a question specifically asked by an OP in a forum thread, you make yourself a target for a response to it, whether you like it or not or asked about it or not.

If you don't want commentary on what you post, the only solution is not to post about it.

You are correct...I guess I forget that not everyone has the manners I was raised with, while other like to hide behind a computer screen and forget the manners that they were raised with. Carry on...

Oh my gosh. This isn't about manners and who has them and who doesn't. This is about how a forum works. When you post something (even if it is just in response to someone else's question) people will comment in either a positive or negative way because everyone has their own opinion. If people don't agree with what you are doing/planning they have every right to tell you because you volunteered that information on a discussion forum. If you don't like the comments or opinions you receive feel free to ignore them or just don't post. But this is how online forums work.

doeydo · April 2014

They could be part of your bridal party as "bridesmen".

Istoleahalo · April 2014

LMAO if you say so

I've always gone under the rule that if you wouldn't (or rather, shouldn't) do it in person, you shouldn't do it online either. Polite manners says you shouldn't turn or take over a conversation. I have no issues with everyone saying they wouldn't do whatever it is that I suggest...but to continue to go on and on (and on...) about it seems rude and disrespectful. You've said it, I saw it, neither of us is likely to change our minds, time to move on. Which I will be doing.

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