I am so stressed out I can barely stand it anymore!
FI and I were supposed to go home (back East) for Christmas last year but had to cancel the trip due to a business conflict so we rescheduled the trip for Easter which cost us $200 per ticket for flight change fees. We were supposed to leave on Thursday, but we got a call that a distant relative of FI's passed away so he had to leave today instead (costing us another $200 in change fees) I will still fly out on Thursday.
My father ( who I am not close to at all) has had leukemia for the past 2 years, his condition has taken a turn for the worse lately so now instead of coming home from visiting FI's family, I am now flying to Florida to access the situation with my father.
I booked another flight from NJ to Florida and I called to cancel my return flight home and was told it would be another $200 change fee because I was changing my flight from a round trip to a one-way!! I asked about the credit for the return flight, it was $82. I told them forget it I would just not check in for the return flight.
My brother is meeting me in Florida so that we can come up with a plan with dad. He believes that dad should move in with one of us until he passes. Not sure what dad wants to do, but honestly and I know this sounds selfish, I do not want him coming to live with us. We can put him in a care facility here, just not in my home. My father on the other hand is not doing anything at all to help himself, all he does is sit in his recliner and smoke 5 packs of cigarettes a day. He is getting secondary infections all over his body because he refuses to move around and take care of basic hygiene. He got what was basically bed sores and ended up in the hospital because of them several times in the past couple of months. Each time either my brother or myself had to fly from the West coast to Florida to see what was going on. It is not because he is not capable of taking care of himself, but because he doesn't want to.
On top of that my Dad is leaving us a cluster when he passes away. He has no will (refuses write one) and his still married to his fourth wife, who he is has not spoken to in about 8 years. She lives somewhere in Japan, not quite sure where. He lives in a community property state and her name is still on the house.
FI and I own our own business and just hired a new manager so I am trying to make sure that everything will be okay while we are gone during a holiday weekend. We are expanding and opening a second location this fall and are now working our financing and negotiating with landlord.
Thank God we decided not to get married until next year, because there is no way I could plan a wedding with all of this mess going on.
So recap...FI had to fly back East early for funeral so he is not here to help me with business stuff before I leave, Dad is dying and leaving me with a mess, and US Airway has charged us about $800 to change flights!!!
I need a drink!!!