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Bridesmaid is bring her BF and TWO dogs!

hampton14hampton14 member
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So, how do I handle one of my bridesmaids informing me that she will be bringing her boyfrind AND two dogs to my wedding that is 5 days away?!?  We had the room arrangements set up to where the bridesmaids/my friends could stay with me for the wedding and now she is making our plans more complicated.  She said she would bring her horse trailer for him and her to stay in because they will have the dogs and that would be easier.  But the issue is where can he shower??  I DON'T want him in MY room while I'm getting ready for my big day. 

If I tell her she can have our extra room IF we rearrange from how we orriginally had it, she should be responsible for her own room, correct?  Especially since I don't want to pay for her boyfriend and 2 dogs....my dogs will be at the house, NOT at the hotel!

What should I do?!?

 

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  • bananasplit472001bananasplit472001 member
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    I would tell your friend that arrangements were already made and you accommodated her.  If her bf wants to stay in a trailer with their 2 dogs for the wedding then let him.  Who cares if he can't shower!  Tell her that it will not be possible for him to shower in your rooms as you will be busy getting ready and it is a "no boys zone".  If she protests tell her that he can purchase his own hotel room for the night just so that he can shower.  it's up to him because your not letting him in the room anyway.
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  • delujm0delujm0 member
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    will she be able to park a trailer at the hotel?  some hotels aren't into that.

     

    other than that, you can't force someone to stay with you the night before your wedding, so if she would rather get her own room and stay with her BF that's her decision.  Also, the fact that her BF wasn't invited in the first place is terrible.  Shame on you.

     

    I don't understand why the dogs need to come to the hotel, but it's not like they're bringing them to your ceremony, so it shouldn't really concern you.

     

    Just tell her whatever she does is fine with you but that you won't be able to make your bathroom available to her BF the morning of the wedding.  She can figure this out on her own.  Also, you should apologize to her for not inviting her BF in the first place.

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  • abbyj700abbyj700 member
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    Yeah  I'm going to second PP's on - why the heck wasn't the boyfriend invited to begin with? 
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  • grumbledoregrumbledore member
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    hampton14 said:

    So, how do I handle one of my bridesmaids informing me that she will be bringing her boyfrind AND two dogs to my wedding that is 5 days away?!?  We had the room arrangements set up to where the bridesmaids/my friends could stay with me for the wedding and now she is making our plans more complicated.  She said she would bring her horse trailer for him and her to stay in because they will have the dogs and that would be easier.  But the issue is where can he shower??  I DON'T want him in MY room while I'm getting ready for my big day. 

    If I tell her she can have our extra room IF we rearrange from how we orriginally had it, she should be responsible for her own room, correct?  Especially since I don't want to pay for her boyfriend and 2 dogs....my dogs will be at the house, NOT at the hotel!

    What should I do?!?

     

    LMFAO.  They are adults, they can work out their own shower situation.  It doesn't sound like they asked you to pay for anything, so I guess you should do nothing since there's nothing to do.

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  • hampton14hampton14 member
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    Well, they weren't together at that time...and no, the dogs won't be coming to the wedding, they will just be with them for the weekend. I really want to be like: saved your butt! Because I had to move my other 2 sisters into my room (making all 4 of us sisters in one room!) just so they would have a hotel room....but they know they are going to pay for it. So I guess that worked out...
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  • doeydodoeydo member
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    hampton14 said:
    Well, they weren't together at that time...and no, the dogs won't be coming to the wedding, they will just be with them for the weekend. I really want to be like: saved your butt! Because I had to move my other 2 sisters into my room (making all 4 of us sisters in one room!) just so they would have a hotel room....but they know they are going to pay for it. So I guess that worked out...
    At the time that the invitations were sent out?
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    Tell them your boundaries, e.g., you, your BF, and the dogs can't stay at our house, etc., and let them work it out.  Don't make unnecessary problems for yourself.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    I don't understand what you're stressed about. They haven't asked you for accommodations or the shower, etc. You're just assuming all these problems and drama.
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • afterimageafterimage member
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    I thought the dogs were coming to the wedding.  I don't see any problem here, so long as they are not.
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  • kstra330kstra330 member
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    hampton14 said:

    Well, they weren't together at that time...and no, the dogs won't be coming to the wedding, they will just be with them for the weekend. I really want to be like: saved your butt! Because I had to move my other 2 sisters into my room (making all 4 of us sisters in one room!) just so they would have a hotel room....but they know they are going to pay for it. So I guess that worked out...

    Um did they ask you to do that? It sounds like they already had a place to stay...
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