Now, I know many people do destination weddings, but please, if you are having a wedding at home and want an intimate ceremony, don't invite guests to the reception that are not invited to the ceremony! It's really rude and I don't understand why it is acceptable to not invite everyone to the ceremony but invite them to the reception, but if someone invites guests to their shower who are not invited to the wedding/reception is rude.
Seriously, what is the difference? One is a before "party" and the other, the "after party". If I got an invite to go to a reception and not the ceremony, I most likely would not go because the message I get from that is, "I'm not important enough to actually see you get wed, but come party and possibly bring a gift". To me, it seems just as gift grabby to invite someone to the reception and not the ceremony as it does to invite someone to your shower but not your wedding....not cool.