The wedding is 13 days away and I was reduced to tears today when I asked my fiance if he remembered to ask his friend (WHO WAS HERE ALL WEEKEND LONG!) if he would be an usher- and he told me he forgot. Then his mom called and reported that she bought all the alcohol... from the long list- not the shortened list I thought he was going to talk to her about. So now she has to return a bunch of stuff and buy other stuff because of that snafu. I got my day of itinerary from my coordinator and almost everything is a question mark. Has she seriously not talked to anyone yet!? Am I supposed to fill all this in? I thought that was what I hired her for- to coordinate! And my florist told my FMIL that she won't put colored flowers in the center pieces because that's not what I want, even though I've told her again and again that I want color, and have shown her examples that include color.
I went and organized all of our stuff we're talking with us to the wedding by when it is needed (i.e. me getting ready, ceremony, etc) and typed up our signs for the bar, guest book, etc. That made me feel better. But I can't help but feel that nothing is being done right unless I do it myself. And as a result, I'm worried that things won't get done or will be done wrong as a result.
Re: I'm at my breaking point
That feeling (in wedding planning, work, or life) of having to do everything yourself is so overwhelming. Can you prioritize by listing 3-5 things that you want to be perfect to do yourself and then delegating the others?
People keep telling me how smoothly things are going to go on our wedding day and my response is, "Even if things are a mess, we will be married at the end of the day!" We have worked really hard on all of the little details and I really do want the day to go smoothly and for our friends and family to have a wonderful time. But truly, the thing I care most about is being married. Hang in there!
I agree, very frustrating! Your day of coordinator should not have so many question marks at this point. Did you ask her if she had talked to the people in question? You shouldn't have to do that for her. You can also ask her to only give you the day of itinerary when it is final, for you to just approve.
Hopefully all these details will be solved soon!