Both my dad and step-dad are walking me down the aisle

mellartime · April 2014

Both my dad and my step dad are walking me down the aisle which we are all perfectly happy with

My question is, what should I do for the father/daughter dance? Each have a seperate one? One cut in part way through? I love the cutting in idea, but unsure how that would go over. Help please

and thanks!

AddieCake · April 2014

I think cutting in is good b/c it cuts down on the number of spotlight dances people have to sit though.

ladyamanuet · April 2014

I agree. Or maybe 2 songs but only a portion of each song - not two full songs. Fade out of one and in to the other, so they are getting separate dances but not taking double the time.

cmclaire · April 2014

I like ladyamanuet's idea of two songs faded in/out; I'm less fond of the 'cutting in' just in case of any hurt feelings (no doubt it would be fine, but it's a wedding and feelings run hugh!).

Inkdancer · April 2014

cmclaire said:

I like ladyamanuet's idea of two songs faded in/out; I'm less fond of the 'cutting in' just in case of any hurt feelings (no doubt it would be fine, but it's a wedding and feelings run hugh!).

I'm with you on this... it might seem like the one who cuts in is saying "excuse me, but I'm her real father".

SJM7538 · April 2014

I did a dance with both my father and stepfather. We did two separate dances but I had the DJ find a place in the song to fade it out that tell between a minute and a minute and a half to avoid guests having to sit through 8 to 10 minutes of father daughter dances.

RebeccaB88 · April 2014

Can I just say how awesome it is that both fathers are willing (and happy!) to do all this for you, and aren't fighting over you like two toddlers with a favorite toy? Because that's what we hear about most of the time, and it just makes everyone miserable. You've got two awesome dads.

ShellD13 · April 2014

Someone I know just witnessed something like this at a wedding. Her SIL was the groom's biological mom and the groom's step mom cut in on the mother/son dance. Unfortunately, in her case it seems like this plan wasn't really vetted with Mom beforehand and Mom felt terribly disrespected by Stepmom. :-(

I am thankful in your situation that your dad and stepdad get along so well and are willing to work together for your wedding! It is wonderful! I personally prefer the plan of two shortened songs vs. a cut-in as I think it will be obvious to your guests that it was an intentional part of the plan vs. stirring up feelings of injustice for your dad and/or stepdad.

anndee2020 · April 2014

I am a bridesmaid in my cousin's wedding and she was debating the same thing. I love @ladyamanuet idea with the fade in and out so that the guest know this was an agreed upon idea by both fathers, but also keeps the spotlight dances to a shorter time frame.I'll be passing that idea along for sure!

SP29 · April 2014

I don't quite like the idea of one dad cutting in- I think it looks odd, as said, "I'm her REAL dad".

However, I think the fading out/in of songs that are a bit shorter is a lovely idea.

Both my dad and step-dad are walking me down the aisle

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