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Thank you note for cash gift

edited April 2014 in Wedding Etiquette Forum
So, I am not getting married until August and I realize I am jumping the gun somewhat just thinking about this... However, I am known among my family for getting TY notes out early and for them being thoughtful (I'm not really sure what the rest of my family does, as mine are in no way special, but everyone always comments on them). Basically I want to make sure I have a gameplan early so I don't delay anything. 

While I would never ask, mention, or even hint that I want any gift, let alone cash... We are not registering for much because we don't need much and because we are having a destination wedding, where I expect many peoples gift budget will be spent on travel. However, if we get cash we will be saving it to eventually buy a house. So (finally) my question is, when I write the note, can I say that we're saving it? Usually it's recommended to mention what you're going to buy with it or how you'll use it... This just seems almost I'll have a hard time doing this without alluding to the gift amount, which I hate doing. 

 Am I over thinking this? Will a simple "Thank you so much for your gift. It will really help us out when it's time to buy our house. We loved seeing you at the wedding... Blah blah thank you note small talk, love SarahRN and hubby?" work? I also should add that we are planning to stay where we are until I graduate from grad school in 3 years.... That seems so far off to be thanking someone for! Please tell me the etiquette on this! Thanks!

ETA: paragraphs… I have my real computer back (FI stole it for a business trip) and my OCD was going too crazy!

Re: Thank you note for cash gift

  • I love to know where my cash gifts go, and I love when it helps to get the new couple a home. That's my favorite place people have spent the money. 
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  • I love Blueeyes90's note to her grandma! It's so nice and important to add a personal touch to a TY. I just received a TY from a batmitzvah gift I sent my 2nd cousin. It was a cute designer bag that I have seen her wear in a few FB pictures since. The TY note she sent me (4 months after her party) was short, generic, one-line long, and I don't think she even had any clue who she was writing it to.
  • yes you are good with you are planning . all cash gifts we said "thank you for your generous gift--we plan to save it for a down payment on a house soon."  We ended up finally renting when we kept getting beat out with cash deals, but the saved money still came in handy for house expenses.
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  • My grandma, who is living in a nursing home (mentally fine, physically not) just gave us a very generous gift (for fun I guess). This is my wording for my thank you note. 

    Dear Grandma,
    I was thrilled to have the opportunity to visit. I wish we could visit more often and am already planning my next trip. I wanted to take a moment to thank you for your generous gift. As we look to start our lives together in December, we will incur a lot of costs including moving to a new state and FI's student loans. Your gift will help with both significantly and we were moved by your thoughtfulness.

    Grandma, you continue to inspire us daily. We appreciate everything you have done for this family and hope you know how much you mean to us.  
    With all of our love,
    Blueeyes and FI

    Just want to say I love this note.
  • Thanks ladies! I appreciate it. I agree, I hate generic TY notes. I guess it's better than none at all… but… is it really? Just barely.

    And yes @blueeyes90, love that note. Your grandma sounds sweet and thoughtful! 
  • Thanks peeps. My grandma is wonderful and so frustrated by her physical limitations. 

    Sarah, I didn't know how to tell you what I would suggest so just wanted you to have an example of what I do. I always talk about things outside the thank you. I want to appreciate the person as well as the gift. It is what my mom taught me to do. 

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