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raeah219
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Stop Sending Me Wedding Stuff!! Vent
I told you guys a few days ago that FI and I have postponed our wedding and stopped all wedding planning to focus on our relationship. We are in therapy and working to try and rebuild our bond without the haze and pressure of wedding planning there to cloud our judgement. We have only told our close friends because our wedding isn't supposed to be until March 28, 2015 any way, so there are no save the dates or invites sent so we feel people don't need to know. I'm even still wearing my ring, just to avoid questions. My bridesmaids however, do know because they are my best friends and my support system through all of this. That's why I just don't understand why one of them keeps sending me pictures of dresses and asking me wedding questions. It's hard enough to put on a fake smile when random people at the grocery store or my co workers ask to see my ring or about my wedding plans. I just smile and say that things are going great, but she knows better. She knows how upset I've been and how much this hurts. Her theory is that we love each other very much and will work through this and still get married so Its ok to talk wedding. We do love each other very much, but we have some very fundamental issues that can ruin a future marriage. We realize that and are taking it seriously. I need her to do the same, or at least hush. Up until now I've just been ignoring her emails or texts about the wedding or "bean dipping' her, but I dont know how much longer I can do that.
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Re: Stop Sending Me Wedding Stuff!! Vent
I would definitely reach out to her and say something. She needs to know that it's bothering you, or else she won't stop.
A lot of people do dumb things without realizing it's dumb and is hurting other people's feelings. This is a harder time for you than it is for her, so I would just tell her flat out that you don't want her to send pictures or ideas until you're ready again. Hopefully she'll understand that.