Hi ladies
I am concerned about how to handle a situation that has just arisen.
Fi and i have a longtime friend. he got engaged about 4 months ago to a girl that Fi and i work(ed) with. We do not have a strong relationship with her (acquaintances really since she no longer works with us), but we are very close with him. They just broke off their engagement two weeks ago and it was not an amicable split. Since my invitations are slated to be mailed out this weekend i would normally just not invite her because she would have only been invited to the wedding because he was in a relationship with her. HOWEVER, my shower (that someone unfortunately spilled the beans about) is next weekend, and Fi asked her if she is still planning on attending, since she was invited before their relationship went sour. She said yes and that she can't wait.
If she does come to the shower, i feel as though excluding her form the wedding will be a faux pas. But Fi doesn't feel its appropriate to invite her to the wedding because of it being awkward. What would you do given this information? Also, does your answer change if she in fact does not show up to the shower?
Thanks in advance!