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This office discussion is freaking killing me.

grumbledoregrumbledore member
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Every single day for two weeks, this young attorney who has an office near me has been telling co-workers about how she received a save the date for a college friend's wedding and the wedding is on 5-31 and she hasn't received an invitation yet.

She keeps laughing it off, but it's clearly bothering her enough to mention to every single person she knows in this office.

I told her the first time she mentioned it that it was insanely rude of them not to invite her, if in fact that has happened.

A lot of other people in the office are saying things like, "Well, maybe they needed to cut down the guest list."

Ick, ick, ick.

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Re: This office discussion is freaking killing me.

  • grumbledoregrumbledore member
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    But of course she's refusing to call and ask.

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  • delujm0delujm0 member
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    well, my wedding is also 5-31, and we really are just at the 6 week mark right now...so since they sent a STD it wouldn't be unfathomable that the invites were just sent this week or are about to be sent this weekend or something. She shouldn't really worry about this unless (a) she knows for a fact that other people have already received theirs or (b) it gets to be two weeks from now and she still doesn't have one.

     

    We have fiends who never received their invitation...but fortunately they're in constant contact with FI and knew that other mutual friends had gotten theirs so they just emaild FI and asked him to send another one.  No big deal. 

     

    Gross to the people that think "cutting down the guest list" is an excuse to not invite someone who you sent an STD to.  I'm still annoyed 8 years after the fact that my college roomie included me in her group "OMG I'M ENGAGED LOOK AT MY RING" email and then didn't invite me to her wedding.  And that's not even a STD.  (side note, i later found out that she had a VERY intimate, 50 person wedding, which was not her original plan because her father told her he'd pay for it and then backed out last minute...so her guest list had to be smaller than originally anticipated.  i don't hold it against her necessarily, but it still irks me.  like the email was just a brag session or something.)

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  • MrsAitchMrsAitch member
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    I would think they probably just haven't sent out invitations yet...seriously not one person thought of that?
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  • grumbledoregrumbledore member
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    I considered they might not have sent them/have just sent them, but it's more the assumption that she isn't invited and that also this is somehow possibly ok.

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  • Sars06Sars06 member
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    One of the women in my boot camp is a bridesmaid, and she was telling us about the email she just got from the bride laying out her preferences for her bachelorette party. All of the options presented in the email involved international travel.

    Everyone agreed that demanding an international trip was inappropriate, but I was the only one who was bothered by the fact that the bride was even dictating the terms of a party thrown in her honor.

    Sigh.
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  • grumbledoregrumbledore member
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    Sars06 said:
    One of the women in my boot camp is a bridesmaid, and she was telling us about the email she just got from the bride laying out her preferences for her bachelorette party. All of the options presented in the email involved international travel.

    Everyone agreed that demanding an international trip was inappropriate, but I was the only one who was bothered by the fact that the bride was even dictating the terms of a party thrown in her honor.

    Sigh.
    Fuck that's beyond the pale.  Any demands at all would be unreasonable, unless those demands involve "no strippers" "no drinking" or "no travel."  Those are all reasonable caveats.

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  • bethsmilesbethsmiles member
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    It's amazing what people think is okay when it comes to weddings. One of my good friends got engaged recently and her and her FI are having some money troubles. We were discussing that and she said she was hoping her dad would offer to help with the wedding but she didn't want to ask because it seemed rude. Then two of my other friends not only told her to ask her dad for money for the wedding but to do a honeymoon fund, ask other people to donate to the wedding rather than give gifts, and other horrible people other than me should have to pay for my wedding bullshit.

    One of her friends also told her it was okay not to invite significant others. I couldn't help saying if you invite me to a wedding and not SO don't expect me to come, why should I celebrate your relationship if you can't recognize mine. The guy just stared at me and thankfully my friend said, of course I'm inviting SOs I'm not a jerk!


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