FI and I had a talk about etiquette yesterday that I think brought up some good points. I also discussed some of this with my best friend who is my MOH. FI sees etiquette as being a set of rules, and American cultural norms, while I see it as not being rude to your guests ( for lack of a better phrase and only in terms of wedding etiquette).
So I wonder? What do you do when your culture dictates differently?
I read on TK that stating children only (or any deviation of that) is against etiquette. Unfortunately I know that in certain Latino households ( for a fact in FI's and mine) , unless people see it in writing, they will bring kids. So, then what? And trust me, word of mouth is not enough. I didn't think much of this before until now.
I know TK states that adults should not be told who to bring, etc, but the fact of the matter is that cultural differences do exist. I know that there are other Latinos here, and I'm not speaking for all Latinos, only for our families. MOH told me she used to go to weddings all the time as a kid she's sure she was not invited to. And in fact, I think I went to a shower with her that I was not invited to.
So, is this a case where we break the rules? FI and I were raised differently, but most of our family was not. And trust me when I say- some adults in our families will not know better. I'm not trying to be snarky or anything at all, just honest. So. What do you guys think? And if I'm not clear - The whole no children thing on invitations. I know it is against etiquette to explicitly state that - but in our case, would we be better off stating so? Just need some input, and
I appreciate the advice here.
Edit: think I fixed paragraphs