We're planning to get married in about a year. Our first choice of wedding locations does not allow you to book it until 6 months prior to the event. And there's no guarantee that your desired dates will be available. But I love this place and want to try for it. So in order to make sure that I get my first choice in locations, we won't know the exact date of our wedding until six months before the event. My fiance has a lot of out of town guests, and his groomsman will out-of-towners, too, who have to travel cross-country to come to our wedding. He is concerned that this will be a bit late to ask our friends to be in the wedding party and send out our save-the-date notices. He would prefer that we pick a date, and stick to that date no matter what. Since we're having a breakfast wedding, we will have no problem finding an alternate location should my first choice not be available. So we could organize our wedding party and send out save-the-date notices prior to 6 months, but then I'll only get one shot at the location I want. Should I compromise, and accept that I might have to switch locations? Or should he chill out and let his out of town guests know the date once we have the location nailed down six months prior. Another option is we tell the important people that we are looking at 2 potential weekends, and that we will let them know the exact date once we know it.