My fiance had proposed to me on New Years Day, right and I was excited about getting married and planning the whole thing because I like to plan. A month later my fiance tells me that we need to save for a bed. I was not okay with the idea because I wanted to go on ahead and save for the wedding, you know, get it over with. He want a new bed because he is tired of his and want to sleep better so he want us to pitch in together to get a bed for us, a queen at that. I'm still not okay with the idea, I wan to get married first and get the bed, bed frame, box spring, comforters, and sheets later. We're not agreeing with each other and its a bit frustrating. What should I do? Do I seem selfish because I want us to get married first or get the bed first and get married later.