Due to the shear amount of kids in our family and our venue we have elected to not have kids at our wedding. This means that people will not attend our wedding because of that.
We had our first 'can't come because Suzy and Johnny aren't invited and we have no one to watch them," today. This was from a relative who had previously stated how excited they were to attend. They believe a wedding is equal to a family reunion and therefore all ages should be invited. I can understand that and I said I was bummed they couldn't make it but understand.
That being said I'm still upset and bummed they can't make it. We are providing alternative options for babysitting here, but that idea didn't work for them. Still understandable, but still hurt. I guess, I'm trying to understand how they were able to attend another relatives DW where only adults were invited a few months ago, but can't attend ours because we don't want to use it as a family reunion?
I know it was the chance we took having no kids, and I'm taking that responsibility, but it doesn't stop the 'decline to attend' from hurting.
Re: Kids
I'm just having a hard time separating the two. I'll get there eventually, just hurts right now, hence the snark post.
I am ALL for no kid weddings BUT...if you are going to have one, you MUST be gracious about declines. You have every right in the world to do kid free, and they have every right in the world to decline because of that.
If you go kid free you need to be very gracious about declines and not take them personally.
Websites/blogs where our wedding has been featured:
http://www.dapperq.com/2013/11/a-very-dapper-wedding/
http://www.onabicyclebuiltfortwo.com/2013/10/wedding-christina-g.html
http://4realequalityweddings.com/2014/05/16/g-christina/
However, if we have a larger wedding, I would require it to be no kids. Various relatives have hellspawn. But I'm not only the princess of havoc, I'm the queen of stuck up meanie pants. So I don't give a fig if so and so isn't invited. Plus, those with hellspawn, I don't really want to see them at my wedding.